Join me to learn how to share Compassionate Mediation® with your clients.
During this time of stress and uncertainty, our personal and professional lives can become challenging and isolating.
For our clients, their relationships can be strained to their limits.
Marriages are meant to last for “better or worse, until death do us part.” But there was no mention of what to do in a pandemic.
Couples and families can use all the help we can give, and we can give a lot.
I want to share with you my transformational process for relationship healing – Compassionate Mediation®. You can use in your practice now.
If you are a therapist or coach, there are also Continuing Education Credits available. I offer you the methods, strategies, handouts and tools to apply immediately as you expand your expertise and impact – and income.
You can use these tools in person or online — and I’ll show you how.
As a therapist, mediator, attorney, and Chopra-Certified teacher of meditation, yoga, and Ayurveda, I have created a program that covers emotional and spiritual healing along with financial and legal information and support.
Compassionate Mediation® is NOT just for individuals or couples considering divorce. Any relationship that needs healing or transformation will benefit — even if only one member of the relationship learns these skills.
Sometimes the willingness to consider what an ending may look like provides the impetus to create a new beginning together.
Please join me as we help relationships heal all over the world. https://lindakroll.com/Roadmap.
ABOUT LINDA
You can heal and transform all your relationships with Compassionate Communication and Compassionate Mediation®.
Love is always the answer – and it starts with loving your SELF.
Learn how to add more peace, love and joy to your life as you practice exquisite SELF care.
Linda Kroll is the author of the bestselling Compassionate Mediation® for Relationships at a Crossroads: Add Passion to Your Marriage or Compassion to Your Divorce —for a free chapter, go to http://www.lindakrollbook.com/
Linda is also author of the he Kindle bookhttps://amzn.to/2So8AKCCompassionate Divorce -Changing the Face of Divorce, One Heart at a Time. https://amzn.to/2So8AKC
Founder of Compassionate Communication Academy. Linda believes, “Families need not be “broken,” but can be peacefully and respectfully “re-structured.”
You can discover ways to improve your marriage after you take the Unhappy Marriage Quiz. www.LindaKroll.com/RA
Linda is a therapist, mediator, attorney, and Chopra Certified Master Teacher of Meditation, Yoga and Ayurveda. She combines psychology, spirituality, financial and legal information along with her heart, humor, personal experience and professional expertise.
Linda also invites guests she loves to share who offer information, guidance and support to help you live your best life —and become the change you want to see in your relationships and in the world.
It began when Linda, Marcia and I were doing our Reiki share in the midst of the fires on the west coast. The smoke was endangering the health of Linda and me. Marcia, in Ohio, started to feel guilty because she could breathe. What can we do? What if those who can breathe do so with intention for those who cannot? I can support you and you can support me, no matter the reason, environmental or systemic racism. Our breath becomes a life raft across time and space.
You can use a 108 bead mala to pace yourself if desired. The number 108 is sacred. It’s the number of wholeness. It’s the number six chai representing the eternal life of the soul. Read slowly and breathe with each one. Pause to hear and feel the words. Read to someone else and watch their breathing slow as you read. If you grok the idea of this practice, you can create your own I Breathe With You.
Grok – Hindu word for intuit or understand. I love this word. Sounds like a bird talking.
Who among us can breathe? Who cannot? I breathe with and for you.
I breathe with you and all your friends and family connected ones.
…with the trees outside my window.
…with the waters big and small.
…with the wind.
…and smoke.
…with the fires
…and ash.
…and rain.
…with the fog.
…and the spiders who want to be inside.
…and the roly-poly bugs inching across the floor.
…with the rocks, big and small.
…with the sea lions barking at the bottom of the hill.
…with the screaming birds.
…seagulls.
… crows.
…eagles.
I breathe with the mighty hummingbird and her electric sound.
I breathe with the dahlias and the crocosmias.
…the geraniums and the mint.
…the milkweed and the marigolds.
I breathe with the wood of the house, strong and sturdy.
…with the windows and their vision.
I breathe with the mold hidden and not.
I breathe with the idea of balance.
I breathe with knowing I am not the center of the universe.
I breathe with my part in the world.
…with the joy in me.
…with the joy in you.
…with our separation.
…our connection.
Our suffering.
Our end of the cause of suffering.
Our letting go.
Our opening up.
Our open hearts.
Our minds, free and clear.
With my pain.
With your pain.
I breathe with being free of pain..
With the life force.
To be present.
To be soft and yielding.
To stand firmly in my groundedness.
I breathe with the skies.
I breathe with all the colors we see.
Red.
Orange.
Yellow.
Green.
Blue.
Purple
Black.
Brown
White
I breathe with the earth’s core:
fiery and expanding.
…and the earth’s crust:
brittle or crumbling,
fertile and verdant.
I breathe into all the elements.
Fire.
Air.
Metal.
Space.
Wood.
Earth.
I breathe with “being in relationship.”
I breathe with “ what is my portion.”
…”what do I need going forward?”
I breathe with the body.
…with the voice:
say my name, say all the names.
I breathe with the liver, toxin filter.
…the spleen and lymph, first line of defense.
..the blood, oxygen distributor.
..the bones, structure, shape and scaffolding.
..inner marrow, stem cell producer.
..lungs, wings of the heart.
I breathe with the sounds around and in me.
I breathe with the smells swirling in, out.
I breathe with my hands and their touch to this body.
I breathe with the sensations on my skin.
…the borders of my body.
…beyond the borders.
…with the heavenly host.
…with the moonlight.
…with the sun’s radiance.
…the stars.
…the night.
…the day.
…into this life right now.
…into the lives before this one.
and after.
…with the hands cupped to cradle our nation with all protection buddha mudra.
…with riding out the storm with calm.
I breathe with the power of love.
I breathe with giving love.
I breathe with receiving love.
I breathe with there is no difference in giving and receiving love.
I breathe with there is no OTHER when we breathe with our connection.
I breathe with all the forces of nature giving life to this planet.
May we breathe respect.
May we breathe balance through listening.
I breathe with hearing you and you hearing me.
I breathe with the name of god in the silence of my breath’s exhalation.
if you are a therapist, a mediator, an attorney, a coach, or a member of the clergy, spiritual counselor, relationship counselor, or if you’re someone who wants to learn it for yourself, I would love to share the gifts of Compassionate Mediation so that you can use them in your practice now.
I would love to offer you some of the tools that I’ve used with thousands of individuals and couples over the last 25 years as they’ve healed and transformed their relationship.
If you’re a therapist, I want you to have this training so that you can lead them when they are faced with conflict and they don’t have to go to a mediator or an attorney just to get a divorce, they can talk about their problems, every issue that divides them, and you can help them every step along the way.
If you’re a mediator, I want to teach you this skill because it brings more empathy and compassion into the mediation sessions, which leads to a more peaceful and quicker resolution because they don’t spend a lot of time fighting with each other, they learn to understand each other.
If you’re an attorney who’s tired of the litigation process, I want to help you help your clients participate in a way where they don’t feel like a victim or an aggressor and there’s a win-win for everybody.
If you’re a relationship coach, I want to give you the tools, the words, the techniques, so that you can help individuals or couples move forward in a way that brings more peace to their relationship.
For all spiritual counselors, there’s as much love that went into beginning a relationship that can be used to heal and transform it, even if the end is going to be a separation or a divorce.
I have a program ready to go to help anyone that needs that information, but why I’m reaching out to you, another heart-centered professional, is to help you learn how to deliver the program to the people that you know — because together we can help change the face of divorce one heart at a time.
Please join me for my next FACEBOOK LIVE in Compassionate Mediation Training.
I’d like to put your name on my website as a referral because I hope together we can share this message with the world.
I believe, “Families need not be broken, but can be peacefully and respectfully restructured. ”
When you learn Compassionate Mediation, you can help your clients communicate with compassion.
You help them form a compassionate relationship, and many times that’s what they need to start a whole new marriage together.
If they do decide to separate or divorce, Compassionate Mediation is a turnkey program that I can give you to share with your clients now, so please learn more.
All those Parts of me that want to be in control, do it myself, know the right path, have it all figured out, need to know, are afraid to trust, tell me how great I am, tell me how flawed I am, remind me of all the “what if’s, could be’s —and the worst – all those “shoulds.”
All those Parts of me are exhausted, depleted, hopeless, depressed, enervated, bored, unhappy, frustrated, self-pitying, self-aggrandizing, judgmental, blaming, guilty, ashamed, and ready to walk away from everything I’ve created and wanted to offer all of my life.
Uncle. i give up.
But the “i” that is giving up is that little “i,” that “individual “i”, that small self of my ego – finally ready to SURRENDER to the strength of my SOUL.
I’m ready to take on my role as the Channel— which we all are — and release my Ego’s siren’s calls and quiet my mind enough to hear the quiet whispers of my heart’s true desires.
I want to release the cacophony and flow into the peace.
Then I want to do the next right action that brings me joy.
Uncle, I surrender.
Uncle, Here I am (Hineini)
As Rosh Hashana approaches, HERE I AM, Dearest God, asking for forgiveness and willing to listen and respond to what I hear from YOU.
God’s will be done.
I am but the Paint Brush waiting to be used by YOU.
TGKOW/TYDGA
January 9, 2006
The Patient Brush
There once was a brush, all bristly and new
Who wondered about all the things she would do.
She’d paint the skies red. She’d color seas green.
She’d become the best brush that had ever been seen.
She flittered about in a flash and a flurry
And wherever she’d go, she’d rush in a hurry.
So much to do. So much to create.
She could never sit still, and just dry up and wait.
She saw other brushes that made her feel small.
She tried even harder to out-paint them all.
Her bristles got matted. Her handle got rusty.
Her pictures were blurry. Her ideas got musty.
With nowhere to turn and no end in sight.
She frantically busied to make things feel right.
And one day she saw in the bunch an old brush,
Who patiently waited, with no need to rush.
That brush did not care, as it stayed very still.
It had no agenda, no worries, no will.
It just rested and waited, as it seemed to just know
That its purpose was clear when the right time would show.
The Old Brush was present, the Old Brush was clean.
The Old brush was quiet, and almost serene.
The hand of The Painter then slowly descended,
And picked up the Old Brush, with a purpose transcendent.
As the Painter took over, the Old Brush just flew
Creating a masterpiece again and anew.
And the harried brush pondered, feeling lost and depleted,
If it could get quiet would it ever be needed.
It decided to slow down. It got very still.
It surrendered its ego. It gave up its will.
And The Painter could find it when its bristles were needed.
For it had its own purpose when its ego receded.
The Painter could use it to create works anew.
All of which were beyond what that lone brush could do.
So as you scurry and scamper to get through the day.
Can The Painter now find you? Do you get in your way?
If you get still and quiet, when the timing is right,
The Painter can lead you, with no effort or fright.
You will sail through your day with grace, joy and ease.
Which brush are you? Be the patient one please.
For you’ll find we’re all brushes, and each one is great.
We all have seeds of genius, whether we are ready to share them or not.
Instead of letting our egos get in the way — with grandiosity or showing off — we usually let those voices in our head convince us to hold onto all we know in case we will be judged or ridiculed or — some other “horrible” fate.
What if we just got out of our own way?
What if we could TRUST in a power greater than our small self and TUNE in to our deepest desires and have FAITH that we are being divinely inspired?
What if we could just “get out of the way and let go?”
But how do we do that?
How do I do that?
First, I need to take a deep breath, put on my big girl pants and not be afraid to face my fears.
What am I afraid of?
That someone won’t like what I write? (So what? I can’t please everyone.)
They will think it’s corny? (They are probably right. I am corny.)
My children won’t approve? (They often find fault, so what’s new?)
So much that I have written stays hidden from view.
So much of what I have produced is out of sight.
So much of the last seven years of my life feels like I’ve been going in circles.
Maybe that’s because I thought I had to do it all myself – by myself – from my small self.
What if I truly tuned in –
to the song that is playing under the fears…
to the hum of my deepest knowing…
to the beauty of my soul’s voice…
What would I hear?
What if I pressed SEND on all those emails?
Or conversed with people I’m “friends with” or “connected to” or are “on my list.”
What if I made the value of sharing more important than the goal of “earning?”
