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Create the Relationship You Desire and Deserve.
No two relationships are alike.
If you take a moment to tell me about yours,
I can offer you solutions to help you
make the changes you need now.
You can get your FREE RELATIONSHIP ASSESSMENT HERE.
You have many options. Things are not black and white. It is not a choice between status quo or Armageddon.
It's not to stay where you are or implode your family.
There is a rainbow of options that you don't understand yet, but you will.
As you start to learn how to communicate from your higher SELF and learn how to use the Miracle of Empathy, you can begin to talk about all the issues that you would have to talk about in a divorce.
In a divorce or a separation, you're going have to talk about money, parenting, what you're going todo with a house, etcetera.
You're going to have to see if you need to get a job or not.
But when you are looking at all the possibilities, you can talk about them all without needing to end the relationship.
Because many times in a relationship, you're locked in roles that you had many years ago that your parents had.
Sometimes the husband is the breadwinner and the wife stays at home and raises the children and he spends 15 or 20 years earning money. She feels neglected and he doesn't know it. He's ready to retire. She's already been MIA, missing an action, because she's felt so hurt for years and wasn't able to share that.
Then they show up in my office ready to get divorced. He's hopeful that she'll love him and she's ready to leave.
I tell the party that's hopeful that they have to be willing to talk about what an ending would look like because the person that's ready to leave isn't ready to keep doing marriage counseling.
And I tell the person who wants to leave that they have to be willing to talk about the feelings because otherwise the person that's still hopeful will sabotage any divorce proceedings.
And they could fight about it for two years before they were in a room talking about what they're going talk about with me or with your counselor or with someone else who knows this process.
I wrote the book to help you – Compassionate Mediation® for Relationships at a Crossroad: How to Add Passion to Your Marriage or Compassion to Your Divorce.
Get your FREE CHAPTER HERE!
You can heal and transform your relationship from your highest and best SELF for the benefit of all concerned. You can learn more and find healing with my Compassionate Mediation Program available now.
Compassionate Mediation® is a transformational process of conflict resolution that will help you add passion to your marriage or compassion to your divorce. .
If you are a professional – therapist, mediator, attorney, coach, counselor or clergy – who wants to learn how to offer this process to your clients, please get your FREE Roadmap and Video HERE
Heal Your Relationship
with Compassionate Mediation®
Create the Relationship
You Desire and Deserve!
No two relationships are alike. If you take a moment to tell me about yours, I can offer you solutions to help you make the changes you need now.
Your FREE RELATIONSHIP ASSESSMENT HERE and let the healing begin1
Compassionate Mediation® leads to hope and healing as it lets you take one step at a time, just one step.
I congratulate as you take it one step at a time, and staying open to possibilities.
If your ultimate goal is to be in a loving, kind, passionate, intimate, fun relationship, then that's your GPS. That's where you set your GPS now.
The steps to get there might not be clear yet, but what we do is if we could be as kind to yourself as you old GPS in our car used to be.
Remember how you set the GPS for where you wanted go And then you start going and you make a wrong turn the GPS just says, rerouting.
Rerouting.
It doesn't say, “You stupid idiot. You've made a bad choice.” Or anything that we tell ourselves, right?
So if we know that we're going to take small, incremental steps in the direction of our dreams, of the relationship we desire and deserve, then we'll know when we're listening to our higher SELF.
Then the steps to take will flow.
When we're listening to our ego, or our fear, or our judgment or our defensiveness, we're going to feel very constricted and, the path will be much more difficult.
So move in the direction of your highest good and see the universe support you. It really is amazing.
I wrote the book to help you – Compassionate Mediation® for Relationships at a Crossroad: How to Add Passion to Your Marriage or Compassion to Your Divorce.
Get your FREE CHAPTER HERE!
You can heal and transform your relationship from your highest and best SELF for the benefit of all concerned. You can learn more and find healing with my Compassionate Mediation Program available now.
Compassionate Mediation® is a transformational process of conflict resolution that will help you add passion to your marriage or compassion to your divorce. .
If you are a professional – therapist, mediator, attorney, coach, counselor or clergy – who wants to learn how to offer this process to your clients, please get your FREE Roadmap and Video HERE
Add Passion to Your Marriage
or Compassion to Your Divorce…
even if you have “one foot out the door!”
Create the Relationship You Desire and Deserve
No two relationships are alike.
If you take a moment to tell me about yours,
I can offer you solutions to help you
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Be Your Best SELF
Let go of limiting beliefs.
Unburden pain from the past.
Relate from your heart.
Compassionate Mediation® is a process that I developed after studying for 35 years. I studied Internal Family Systems with Dick Schwartz and I studied at the Chopra Center with @Davidji. I had the privilege of studying with these wonderful mentors – and many others, including SARK. I am deeply grateful to all of them.
Compassionate Mediation® is a process that I hope will be used around the world whenever there's conflict.
It invites people to come from their highest self, recognize that we're all one, and work out the details of the negotiations without getting into the human condition of defensiveness and reactivity and blame and judgment.
The first step in my version of Compassionate Communication is to connect to your best SELF.
Most of us aren't in our best self all of the time. I’m defining SELF (as used in IFS therapy) as that calm, compassionate place inside your heart where you're not triggered by anyone else’s actions or reactions.
When we're “in SELF,” we're calm, we're clear, we're compassionate – but we're usually not in self. We're in “Parts..”
And the parts that we're in – we either EXILE, MANAGE, or get EXTREME.
We EXILE some parts and push them aside and don't tell our partner that we're really sad and scared. And instead we try to MANAGE by being nice or pleasing or being stoic or being hardworking or pretending we're “in SELF.”
We pretend everything's okay, but we're really feeling a lot of these hurt, sad, scared, maybe even angry feelings that we're not sharing.
So instead, we do things to numb as an EXTREME reaction to avoid the pain of the Exiles that the Managers can’t contain.
We stay real busy. we exercise too much. We drink, we take drugs. We go have an affair, we get depressed, we get enraged. We do a lot of different things, but these are all human reactions to a very painful, scary condition.
And when we're “in SELF, then we are less reactive and can be more responsive.
HOW DO YOU BECOME MORE “in SELF?”
The first way is to just take a breath.
You may have voices in your head asking “Do I want to stay in this relationship or do I want to go? “Can Iput my walk around my heart down and trust again? Can I be safe and happy in this relationship?”
You can take a breath, come to the present moment, and stop regurgitating the past and what they did to us then. And we're not projecting that into the future as if it's going be that way forever.
But we're present. And in that present moment, there's a lot more possibility. T
The second way to get to SELF is to recognize that we have these Parts and we speak for them, but not from them.
So it's okay to say from your higher SELF, “There's a part of me that's angry because of something. There's a part of me that's scared when you do that. I'm feeling sad because …..”
When we're talking from SELF. It's a whole different dialogue with a more calm and compassionate energy.
When you are compassionately communicating, You are
- connecting to your best SELF.
- letting go of your limiting beliefs and judgments about the other person (or yourself)
- unburdening the pain from the past, not carrying it with you and projecting it into the future.
- relating from your heart.
Because when you're in your higher SELF, it's safe to open your heart.
It may mean you'll be setting more boundaries. It may mean that you choose to leave, but you can do it from your higher SELF, with kindness and compassion.
I wrote the book to help you – Compassionate Mediation® for Relationships at a Crossroad: How to Add Passion to Your Marriage or Compassion to Your Divorce.
Get your FREE CHAPTER HERE!
You can heal and transform your relationship from your highest and best SELF for the benefit of all concerned. You can learn more and find healing with my Compassionate Mediation Program available now.
Compassionate Mediation® is a transformational process of conflict resolution that will help you add passion to your marriage or compassion to your divorce. .
If you are a professional – therapist, mediator, attorney, coach, counselor or clergy – who wants to learn how to offer this process to your clients, please get your FREE Roadmap and Video HERE
Learn the 5 Steps to Receive
What You Truly Want and Need.
Create the Relationship You Desire and Deserve
No two relationships are alike.
If you take a moment to tell me about yours,
I can offer you solutions to help you
make the changes you need now.
You can get your FREE RELATIONSHIP ASSESSMENT HERE .
Do you want a better relationship?
Whether you decide to stay or go, you have to get to a place of compassion. You have to get to a place where you
- can really relate to each other with respect, with kindness, with empathy,
- where you really listen to what's underneath the anger that your partner might be showing you.
- You really understand the hurt and the fear and the sadness, and
- you really open your heart to empathize even if you've done it many times before.
As you give empathy, it enriches you no matter what your partner is going to do.
Compassionate Meditation® is helpful even if it's just you who learns this process.
I have shared this process with an individual who's come to my office confused about what to do to help their relationship.
I've shared it with couples that, one wants to stay and the other one wants to go. And that happens a lot of times.
And I've used it in mediation for divorce as well.
The first step is to come from your BEST SELF.
The second step, create a compassionate relationship. Practice the miracle of empathy, where you start talking about what you want with “I” messages instead of talking about your judgments with “you” messages.
Being able to talk with empathy means you have to have the five steps to receive what you want and need.
And those 5 steps are
- you have to know what you want and need.
- You have to know you deserve it.
- You have to be willing to ask for it and
- ready to receive it and
- stay grateful.
So know what you want. Know you deserve it. Learn how to ask. Be willing to receive and stay grateful.
And that's a process because many times, we're in a relationship and we've spent our whole relationship taking care of other people. So we've lost sight of what we want and need.
Go back to that first step and nd out what makes you happy, and do that. Fill up with self-love, and then you'll be more loving.
Take those five steps and you'll begin to think about what it is you want and share that with your partner instead of what you don't want.
I wrote the book to help you – Compassionate Mediation® for Relationships at a Crossroad: How to Add Passion to Your Marriage or Compassion to Your Divorce.
Get your FREE CHAPTER HERE!
You can heal and transform your relationship from your highest and best SELF for the benefit of all concerned. You can learn more and find healing with my Compassionate Mediation Program available now.
Compassionate Mediation® is a transformational process of conflict resolution that will help you add passion to your marriage or compassion to your divorce. .
If you are a professional – therapist, mediator, attorney, coach, counselor or clergy – who wants to learn how to offer this process to your clients, please get your FREE Roadmap and Video HERE
