if you are a therapist, a mediator, an attorney, a coach, or a member of the clergy, spiritual counselor, relationship counselor, or if you’re someone who wants to learn it for yourself, I would love to share the gifts of Compassionate Mediation so that you can use them in your practice now.
I would love to offer you some of the tools that I’ve used with thousands of individuals and couples over the last 25 years as they’ve healed and transformed their relationship.
If you’re a therapist, I want you to have this training so that you can lead them when they are faced with conflict and they don’t have to go to a mediator or an attorney just to get a divorce, they can talk about their problems, every issue that divides them, and you can help them every step along the way.
If you’re a mediator, I want to teach you this skill because it brings more empathy and compassion into the mediation sessions, which leads to a more peaceful and quicker resolution because they don’t spend a lot of time fighting with each other, they learn to understand each other.
If you’re an attorney who’s tired of the litigation process, I want to help you help your clients participate in a way where they don’t feel like a victim or an aggressor and there’s a win-win for everybody.
If you’re a relationship coach, I want to give you the tools, the words, the techniques, so that you can help individuals or couples move forward in a way that brings more peace to their relationship.
For all spiritual counselors, there’s as much love that went into beginning a relationship that can be used to heal and transform it, even if the end is going to be a separation or a divorce.
I have a program ready to go to help anyone that needs that information, but why I’m reaching out to you, another heart-centered professional, is to help you learn how to deliver the program to the people that you know — because together we can help change the face of divorce one heart at a time.
Please join me for my next FACEBOOK LIVE in Compassionate Mediation Training.
I’d like to put your name on my website as a referral because I hope together we can share this message with the world.
I believe, “Families need not be broken, but can be peacefully and respectfully restructured. ”
When you learn Compassionate Mediation, you can help your clients communicate with compassion.
You help them form a compassionate relationship, and many times that’s what they need to start a whole new marriage together.
If they do decide to separate or divorce, Compassionate Mediation is a turnkey program that I can give you to share with your clients now, so please learn more.
All those Parts of me that want to be in control, do it myself, know the right path, have it all figured out, need to know, are afraid to trust, tell me how great I am, tell me how flawed I am, remind me of all the “what if’s, could be’s —and the worst – all those “shoulds.”
All those Parts of me are exhausted, depleted, hopeless, depressed, enervated, bored, unhappy, frustrated, self-pitying, self-aggrandizing, judgmental, blaming, guilty, ashamed, and ready to walk away from everything I’ve created and wanted to offer all of my life.
Uncle. i give up.
But the “i” that is giving up is that little “i,” that “individual “i”, that small self of my ego – finally ready to SURRENDER to the strength of my SOUL.
I’m ready to take on my role as the Channel— which we all are — and release my Ego’s siren’s calls and quiet my mind enough to hear the quiet whispers of my heart’s true desires.
I want to release the cacophony and flow into the peace.
Then I want to do the next right action that brings me joy.
Uncle, I surrender.
Uncle, Here I am (Hineini)
As Rosh Hashana approaches, HERE I AM, Dearest God, asking for forgiveness and willing to listen and respond to what I hear from YOU.
God’s will be done.
I am but the Paint Brush waiting to be used by YOU.
TGKOW/TYDGA
January 9, 2006
The Patient Brush
There once was a brush, all bristly and new
Who wondered about all the things she would do.
She’d paint the skies red. She’d color seas green.
She’d become the best brush that had ever been seen.
She flittered about in a flash and a flurry
And wherever she’d go, she’d rush in a hurry.
So much to do. So much to create.
She could never sit still, and just dry up and wait.
She saw other brushes that made her feel small.
She tried even harder to out-paint them all.
Her bristles got matted. Her handle got rusty.
Her pictures were blurry. Her ideas got musty.
With nowhere to turn and no end in sight.
She frantically busied to make things feel right.
And one day she saw in the bunch an old brush,
Who patiently waited, with no need to rush.
That brush did not care, as it stayed very still.
It had no agenda, no worries, no will.
It just rested and waited, as it seemed to just know
That its purpose was clear when the right time would show.
The Old Brush was present, the Old Brush was clean.
The Old brush was quiet, and almost serene.
The hand of The Painter then slowly descended,
And picked up the Old Brush, with a purpose transcendent.
As the Painter took over, the Old Brush just flew
Creating a masterpiece again and anew.
And the harried brush pondered, feeling lost and depleted,
If it could get quiet would it ever be needed.
It decided to slow down. It got very still.
It surrendered its ego. It gave up its will.
And The Painter could find it when its bristles were needed.
For it had its own purpose when its ego receded.
The Painter could use it to create works anew.
All of which were beyond what that lone brush could do.
So as you scurry and scamper to get through the day.
Can The Painter now find you? Do you get in your way?
If you get still and quiet, when the timing is right,
The Painter can lead you, with no effort or fright.
You will sail through your day with grace, joy and ease.
Which brush are you? Be the patient one please.
For you’ll find we’re all brushes, and each one is great.
We all have seeds of genius, whether we are ready to share them or not.
Instead of letting our egos get in the way — with grandiosity or showing off — we usually let those voices in our head convince us to hold onto all we know in case we will be judged or ridiculed or — some other “horrible” fate.
What if we just got out of our own way?
What if we could TRUST in a power greater than our small self and TUNE in to our deepest desires and have FAITH that we are being divinely inspired?
What if we could just “get out of the way and let go?”
But how do we do that?
How do I do that?
First, I need to take a deep breath, put on my big girl pants and not be afraid to face my fears.
What am I afraid of?
That someone won’t like what I write? (So what? I can’t please everyone.)
They will think it’s corny? (They are probably right. I am corny.)
My children won’t approve? (They often find fault, so what’s new?)
So much that I have written stays hidden from view.
So much of what I have produced is out of sight.
So much of the last seven years of my life feels like I’ve been going in circles.
Maybe that’s because I thought I had to do it all myself – by myself – from my small self.
What if I truly tuned in –
to the song that is playing under the fears…
to the hum of my deepest knowing…
to the beauty of my soul’s voice…
What would I hear?
What if I pressed SEND on all those emails?
Or conversed with people I’m “friends with” or “connected to” or are “on my list.”
What if I made the value of sharing more important than the goal of “earning?”
I’m very excited to start my program on Compassionate Mediation® Tools for Your Practice Now on soon.
It’s going to be a personalized group, in which I get to know you individually and I can offer my support over the next three months.
I hope you can jump in and join us — even if you’re on the fence — because there’s so much to gain and nothing to lose.
I created this process merging IFS with my background as a mediator and attorney, and Chopra Certified teacher of meditation, yoga, and Ayurveda.
The tools I share with you combine emotional and spiritual healing, along with legal and financial information. You can help your individual or couples clients to add passion to their marriage or compassion to their divorce and heal from the trauma of this pandemic.
There’s a no-risk money back guarantee, so if after the first session you think it’s not for you, I’ll give your money back. And in the meantime, you’ll get to keep all the bonuses that I’ve offered. (See below)
Compassionate Mediation® is not just for people who are thinking of divorce. It’s a process that you can use with an individual or a couple who is having conflict in their relationship. It gives you the tools to help you help them:
· be their best self
· foster a compassionate relationship with their partner now
· explore their options
· understand their rights and finances
· and then create a relationship they truly desire and deserve.
I merge IFS with higher consciousness and add in legal and financial information. If you are a therapist or coach, you can receive 5 Continuing Education Credits.
Here’s what you’ll receive:
3 Live 90 minute sessions on zoom
3 live Q&A sessions over the next 3 months
3 month in private Facebook group for mentoring and support.
5 Continuing Education Credits available for therapists and coaches
PLUS you get these bonuses just for signing up!
Initial Interview Template: I’m sure you have your own process, but this unique outline gives you the framework for knowing what to ask in what order to make immediate and deep connections to your clients, their parts, their partner’s parts, and their enhanced SELF-leadership. You get an in-depth overview and your clients get an immediate appreciation of SELF and Parts.
.Miracle of Empathy Handout: Your clients will feel compassion for their own feelings and also their partner’s. Using “I” messages and speaking “for” their exiles, their parts release the need to be defensive, blaming or judgmental. I have used this handout with my individual and couples clients to help foster a better connection, no matter what the future holds.
What Your Clients Should Know about Divorce Audio and E-book: My 30-minute Audio and E-book offer information for you and your clients. They include legal and financial information, available options for your clients, and how to provide counseling and support, along with a relaxation meditation.
Budget Form to Share: You can help your clients become more informed, clear and confident about their financial situation as they create a new relationship with respect.
And remember you have a No-Risk Money-back Guarantee!
(First Name), the LIVE course starts soon, and I would love to have you join me.
All my best,
Linda
P.S. Many of your colleagues will be joining this course. It’s a great opportunity to network and share your skills and expertise with others who can refer and support you.
We are starting the course on soon. Please join us!
If you work with individuals and couples in conflict, I’d love to share my process of Compassionate Mediation® with you.
You can increase your expertise, income and impact!
I also use these techniques when I work with couples who aren’t worried about leaving, but want to improve their relationship with SELF-led communication.
I also provide free trainings online.
If you want to learn more, please go to: www.CompassionateMediationTraining.com to receive a free copy of my Compassionate Mediation Roadmap and free roadmap training too.
I just offered a workshop at the IFS (Internal Family Systems) conference in Denver, and here is what some of the workshop participants had to say:
“Thanks so much. This gives me a roadmap and framework for helping couples navigate their decision making in a way that honors and empowers both parties.”
“Great material/program. I’m buying the book, Thank you for your generosity in sharing.”
“I especially enjoyed and found useful the role plays.”
“So much good stuff! Thank you.”
“Should I stay or should I go?” is a question clients ask themselves and may also ask you. As a therapist or coach, it can be challenging to know what subjects to cover and how to help them make SELF-led decisions in the highest good for all concerned.
You can tools offer information, guidance and support. Looking at an ending can often lead to a new beginning.
Families need not be broken, but can peacefully and respectfully restructured.
Clients can be offered emotional and spiritual healing (along with financial and legal information) to help them add passion to their marriage or compassion to their divorce.
I look forward to connecting soon.
All my best,
P.S. I’ve been sharing this process for many years, and I’ll soon be 73! I’m looking for other therapists, mediators, attorneys, coaches and clergy to take this process to your clients so that together we can change the face of divorce – one heart at a time!
