Hi, it's Linda Kroll. I want to thank Dick Schwartz and the whole IFS Institute for allowing me to share my process of Compassionate Mediation® with you.
I was overwhelmed and honored by the number of you who opted in for the Roadmap and also signed up for the three-session course that's coming soon. I want to give you some more hints about the Roadmap.
The Roadmap is an overview of the Compassionate Mediation process.
I want you to be able to use whatever tools that I have in there for you to use with your clients now. On the list of the outline of the Roadmap:
- there's the genogram
- Five Steps to Receive What You Want and Need
- the Miracle of Empathy
- how to talk to your children,
- how to fill out a budget form.
All of those are for you to use with your clients now, who want to know what to do next with their relationship.
Now, more than ever, relationships are strained to the limit. If people went into quarantine not knowing what they wanted to do, they may be even more confused now, and they're going to be needing your help and guidance.
What you can do with Compassionate Mediation is integrate the tools I'm offering you into your practice now and begin to your clients to relate from their highest self, create a compassionate relationship, explore their options, understand their rights and finances, and truly create the relationship they desire and deserve.
I want to give you the tools that I've used for over 30 years as an IFS therapist, mediator and attorney, a Chopra Certified teacher of meditation, yoga and Ayurveda.
I've blended the emotional and spiritual healing along with legal and financial information.
I find that if I can give that to you, you can help your clients have these very challenging conversations, but have them from SELF. They can have them from a place where they're clear, they're calm, they're connected, and they're compassionate with everything they're feeling, but also compassionate with what their partner feels.
Miracles can occur, because once they become SELF-led — and they even talk about a part that's thinking whether they should stay or go — it leads to a whole deeper level of intimacy that you can help them navigate.
I want to share with you the tools that I've developed all these years and I've offered them at workshops and now I found a way to offer them online.
Get the Roadmap and the videos and Settlement Prayer and Intention HERE .
I'm also including my Settlement Prayer that I gave to my husband the night before we got divorced. I actually brought it to the courtroom, I gave it to him and his attorney. His attorney looked at it and said, “Hey, Pete. Any changes you want to make on this?” but we left it alone.
It's the Settlement Prayer that invites us to come from our highest and best self, that invites us to acknowledge the pain, the sadness, the fear, the anger, but still rise above it, and for the sake the love we once shared and the future that we can create together to do it from our highest and best self.
I'm sending you the prayer or the intention. I have many more tools to share with you.
I hope you join me in my upcoming live three-session course, Compassionate Mediation Tools For Your Practice Now, so that I can share with you the benefit of the wisdom that Dick Schwartz and the IFS colleagues have given me, plus all the other education I've acquired and put it into one program to hand to you.
The Compassionate Mediation Program Tools For Your Practice Now starts soon, please sign up and join me. In the meantime, enjoy the Roadmap, enjoy the other tools I'll be sending. I look forward to staying connected. Thanks again for your interest and I'll talk to you soon.
To learn more about the upcoming course, click HERE.
My Settlement Prayer
(I wrote this the night before I went to court for the final dissolution of our marriage. I gave it to my husband and our lawyers to ask that we all work together from the highest SELF in each of us.)
I pray for a peaceful and respectful settlement meeting, in which all parties come together from their Highest Selves and their truest connection to Your guidance, wisdom and love.
I pray that the parts of ourselves that are angry, fearful, defensive, revengeful, retributive, punitive, unloving, unforgiving, sad, young, abandoned, resentful, negative, hurting and hurtful – that all these parts be quelled with the leadership of the Self, coming from a place of trust in Your presence and light.
I pray for compassion, forgiveness, gratitude and appreciation. Although our marriage has come down to a business closing of money and asset division, I ask that we remember the love that brought us together, and the wonderful children which our union has borne. For their sakes as well as our own, we wish to put an end to this process in as respectful and loving a way as possible.
Although we each carry our sadness and pain and mutual regrets, I pray that we can look beyond this difficult period to a time when we can be friends and coexist peacefully. I pray that our once intact family can be rearranged to two intact and loving homes, where our children feel connected and comfortable. I pray that we can hold in a different light the love that once joined us forever; that on the deepest level we wish each other well as we let go and let G-d direct our lives.
For the sake of all we once had, and for all we had planned to share together, let us now finalize the terms of our marital dissolution so that we are both free to get on with our lives.
Let us complete this last painful task with a sense of trust in the love we once shared and hopefully can remember after this part is over.
Let us not work from purely simple and self-serving motives, but keep in mind the general welfare of each of us, and our children.
Let us request our attorneys to contribute what is needed for the mutual benefit of all concerned.
In the end, let us know that we behaved civilly, that we can look back with a clear conscience, and that as much as we could, we came from our hearts. G-d bless us and direct us all. Amen.
My Settlement Intention
I intend to have a peaceful and respectful settlement meeting, in which all parties come together from their Highest Selves and their own inner guidance and wisdom.
I intend that the parts of ourselves that are angry, fearful, defensive, revengeful, retributive, punitive, unloving, unforgiving, sad, young, abandoned, resentful, negative, hurting and hurtful – that all these parts be quelled with the leadership of the Self, coming from a place of trust in my own presence and light.
I intend to show compassion, forgiveness, gratitude and appreciation. Although our marriage has come down to a business closing of money and asset division, I intend that we remember the love that brought us together, and the wonderful children which our union has borne. For their sakes as well as our own, we wish to put an end to this process in as respectful and loving a way as possible.
Although we each carry our sadness and pain and mutual regrets, I intend that we can look beyond this difficult period to a time when we can be friends and coexist peacefully. I intend that our once intact family can be rearranged to two intact and loving homes, where our children feel connected and comfortable. I intend that we can hold in a different light the love that once joined us forever; that on the deepest level we wish each other well as we let go.
For the sake of all we once had, and for all we had planned to share together, let us now finalize the terms of our marital dissolution so that we are both free to get on with our lives.
Let us complete this last painful task with a sense of trust in the love we once shared and hopefully can remember after this part is over.
Let us not work from purely simple and self-serving motives, but keep in mind the general welfare of each other and our children.
Let us request our attorneys to contribute what is needed for the mutual benefit of all concerned.
In the end, let us know that we behaved civilly, that we can look back with a clear conscience, and that as much as we could, we came from our hearts.