Why Use CM

The reason to take my course is because it offers a skill set that no one else is offering.

To learn more, get my free roadmap at www.LindaKroll.com/Roadmap 

Usually when people are doing marriage counseling, there's a part of them that might have thought about leaving, but they don't want to bring it into marriage counseling.

They may be concerned that if they bring it into marriage counseling, some counselors may feel, “You're not here for marriage counseling, you're thinking of divorce, so go get a mediator, go with an attorney. You're outside my realm of expertise.” 

I'd like to give you that expertise because when you have the tools that I give you, you are confident in talking with an individual or couple about what an ending would look like. 

Your clients would have all the information they need, and then with that information, they can process their feelings in a way that empathy can help them heal. 

Then they can create a whole new relationship together. 

But they have to have all parts feel welcome.  Even the parts that are trying to decide, should I stay or should I go. 

Often in marriage counseling, they don't want to have that discussion because they feel guilty that there's a part that wants to leave or has thought about leaving. 

But if you welcome that part, you get to what's underneath it. And usually what's underneath it is a lot of sadness, a lot of pain, some anger. And you can process all of that with your clients. 

If you're working with a couple where one wants to stay and the other one wants to leave, you now have the skill set to create a neutral forum where they can talk about everything. 

So the person that wants to leave can stay present to talk about their feelings and the person who  wants to stay can stay present to talk about the possibility of a divorce.

You help them learn to compassionately communicate with empathy. 

Once they do that,  miracles happen and they can create a whole new relationship together based on who they are now, what they both want and need, and whether they're able and willing to give it to each other.

I've pioneered this process on the shoulders of IFS, higher consciousness energy work, mediation, and law

It's a hybrid that combines emotional and spiritual healing along with legal and financial information and support. 

I give all of that to you so that you can give it to your clients. 

And that's just some of the ways that it's different than the wonderful IFS that we all know and love. 

I'd love for you to find a time for us to chat and I'll answer all your questions.

Start Over at Botanic Gardens

I'm at the Botanic coming to you live because I wanted to talk about what kind of relationship can you start over with right now

And in our Compassionate Communication Community, we talk a lot about connecting to our highest self, letting go of limiting beliefs and judgments,unburdening, pain from the past and relating from our heart. 

But what does that really mean?

Instead, you could take a breath right now, and as I look around at the beautiful scenery, think about a relationship right now that might be strained or might be in conflict. 

And see if in just a few moments you can start over.

You can get a free Relationship Assessment HERE.

When my children were younger and teenagers and we might be fighting about something, one or both of them might come in in the middle of an argument crying and say, “Can we start over?” rr

And what that means is it doesn't matter who said what, who did what, who was right, who was wrong, what did you need to do over.

It just means start over. 

Just take a breath and see if you can pick up from the last time you felt good about that person and go back there and do it again. 

I have some friends and some of them aren't talking to their children, some aren't talking to their siblings, and there's a way to have boundaries without disconnecting. 

Even if the other person might not be someone that you want to communicate with right now, you don't have to communicate with them. You can just start over.

Take a deep breath, give yourself permission not to replay the old stories, to change the filter by which you're seeing the other person, and to allow yourself to begin to think that you can start over. 

People can change, Situations can change. 

And forgiveness is a gift that sets you free. 

You can set boundaries. You can decide you do or don't want to be connected to that person. 

But if you give yourself permission to start over right now and take off that filter through which you're judging them or yourself, and stop believing the stories you keep telling yourself, and just give yourself a clean slate, then what you can do is change the energy between the two of you. 

And as you change the energy, the relationship changes. 

Give it a try. 

Think about somebody right now with whom you're having a convict or a strain. 

Take a few deep breaths, belly breaths where you can really get to your higher self.

Drop down from your head into your heart and compassionately communicate to yourself first. 

Let yourself know that you understand you have some hard feelings or hurt feelings or misunderstood feelings. And then see if you could turn that compassion outward because the other person probably does too. 

They may have similar hurt feelings and sadness, and you can put yourself in their shoes for just a minute so that you can be compassionate.

And there's a great guided meditation I have on my website. You can get it in your Compassionate Communication Care Kit at www.LindaKroll.com/CCC

You can get a guided meditation to help you get to Self. 

And when you're “in Self,” you'll see that our human parts that rub up against another’s don't have to get in the way of a divine soul connection.

We can connect divinely with other people. 

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So I'm at the Botanic Garden waxing philosophically bringing you to see the glorious view is here and inviting you to start over with somebody right now. 

And even if you don't tell them you're starting over, just do. 

And you may find that they're going to reach out to you and you can begin a conversation without processing all the feelings of the past, even though that's good to do.

Both of you want to. But the other thing is to see the highest in

each one of you. To let all your human parts that judge just relax while you go to the top of the mountain from your highest and best Self and have compassion for yourself and have compassion for the

other party. 

Even if you decide not to connect, you'll see there's more peace. 

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You can start over with a relationship that brings you peace, brings you joy, and gives you a way to get off the hook of whatever you're telling yourself. 

We're at the Botanic Gardens I'm about to go to the Rose Garden and we're talking about starting over. 

And just like plants need to be replanted, relationships can heal and transform.

A few months ago there were tulips. Now here's roses. 

Relationships can take on different flavors. 

Compassionate communication sets you free. 

Whenever I come here, I just reconnect to myself, to my soul, to the earth.

if you have any questions about how to start over in a

relationship, just ask me. I'm a pro.

I'm a pro at starting over with parents and children, ex-spouses and in-laws and all kinds of people with whom you could have conflict, but you don't need to maintain the conflict, especially when there's so much beauty in the world.

Take time to smell the roses, take time to get outside, and most of all give yourself permission to start over. 

And again, a rose by any other name is still divine. And you are divine. Thanks for joining me. 

Sending love, light and hopes that wherever you're having an issue in a relationship, just start over. It really works. 

Sending love…