Compassionate Mediation® starts with Compassionate Communication
If you are having conflict in your relationship, Compassionate Mediation® will help.
You will learn how to connect to your highest and best SELF and resolve your issues with empathy and respect.
Compassionate Mediation® starts with Compassionate Communication.
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Compassionate Communication
Compassionate Communication allows you to connect to your highest and best SELF, let go of limiting beliefs and judgments, unburden pain from the past, and relate from your heart.
Connect to your best SELF
When we are “in SELF,” we’re calm, clear, and compassionate.
We’re usually not “in SELF.”
We’re in our Parts, and the parts that we’re in, we either EXILE some parts and push them aside and don’t tell our partner that we’re really sad and scared, and instead we try to MANAGE by being nice or pleasing or being stoic or being hardworking or pretending we’re in self. Pretending everything is okay. But we’re really feeling a lot of these hurt, sad, scared, maybe even angry feelings that we’re not sharing.
So instead we do things to numb ourselves. We stay real busy. We exercise too much. We drink. We take drugs. We go have an affair. We get depressed. We get enraged. We do a lot of different things, but these are all human reactions to a very painful, scary condition.
When we’re in self, then we are less reactive and can be more responsive.
Four Ways to Get to SELF
There are four ways to get to self. The first way is to just take a breath because all that anxiousness, all those voices, “Do I want to stay? Do I want to go? What do I want to do? How do I want to be? Can I put my wall down? Is it safe? How am I going to look at him or her through the filter?”
We take a breath. We come to the present moment, and we’re not regurgitating the past to what they did to us then, and we’re not projecting that into the future as if it’s going to be that way forever, but we’re present. In that present moment, there’s a lot more possibility.
Speak for our parts not from our parts . The second way to get to SELF is to recognize that we have these Parts and we speak for them, but not from them. It’s okay to say from your higher SELF, “There’s a part of me that’s angry because of something. There’s a part of me that’s scared when you do that. I’m feeling sad because.” When we’re talking from SELF, it’s a whole different dialogue.
Let go of limiting beliefs . When you are compassionately communicating, you are relating from self. You’re letting go of your limiting beliefs and judgments about the other person. You are unburdening the pain from the past, not carrying it with you and projecting it into the future.
Relate from your heart . When you’re in your higher SELF, it’s safe to open your heart. It may mean you’ll be setting more boundaries. It may mean that you choose to leave, but you can do it from your higher SELF.
When you bring your best SELF to your relationship, it will improve no matter what your partner does or doesn’t do.
You will also know that you are not adding negativity to the situation.
Whatever the outcome of the conflict, you will feel better about your contribution.
Try it, you’ll see. You will also inspire your partner to show up with less defensiveness and reactivity.
Together, you can create a SELF-led relationship that fosters more compassion and connection.
You can begin to make positive changes today
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If you’re like many of my clients, you’re feeling:
• stuck
• confused
• anxious
• guilty
• hopeful that you can change your relationship
• or scared that it may lead to a separation or divorce.
I’m Linda Kroll. I’m a therapist, mediator, attorney, Chopra-certified master teacher of meditation, yoga, perfect health. As of last year, I’m the author of Compassionate Mediation for Relationships at a Crossroad: Add Passion to Your Marriage or Compassion to Your Divorce.
My intention is that you feel more hope. Deal with where you are right now, and where you can be, even if you don’t see it yet.
If you’re on your own island of pain, feeling alone and lost and confused and scared, I want to help you find the bridge to wherever you’re supposed to go next.
It doesn’t mean you have to take any steps. It just means you get the information you need so that when you’re ready to take a step you know that you have the information that will give you the best guidance.
My intention is that you come out feeling more hopeful and see a possibility that you don’t see right now.
Please remember that it’s never too late to start something new and better together!
Would you like to create an amazing relationship?
Do you believe you could have the marriage of your dreams?
Or have you given up hope that it could ever happen with your current partner?
It IS possible, and I’ll show you how!
Wherever you are in your relationship right now, I can help.
If you:
Want to make things better and don’t know how.
Are tired of marriage counseling that isn’t working or didn’t help.
Feel confused or scared about staying or going.
Know you want a divorce.
Have you ever considered how much happier your children would be if you and your spouse could resolve conflicts peacefully and truly enjoy each other?
Even if you have never wondered whether to stay or go, you will benefit from this information! In one hour, you can learn how to create deeper levels of intimacy and partnership.
I’m passionate about helping individuals and couples to feel safe, loved and cherished in their marriage. Whether your relationship is having the usual challenges, is in a great deal of turmoil, or is even possibly headed for divorce, Compassionate Communication can help – starting NOW!
For over 25 years as a therapist, mediator and attorney, as well as a Chopra Certified Master Teacher, I have helped hundreds of women and men create new and improved relationships with peace, fulfillment and joy. Others have decided to change the form of their relationship, and they were able to separate or divorce with a sense of peace and contentment.
I’ll be revealing some of my best techniques to help you learn how to create the relationship you desire and deserve. You and our family will benefit with more compassion and peace.
You will learn how to:
Be your best SELF in your relationship now.
Communicate about every issue that may cause conflict.
Share more empathy.
Forgive yourself and your partner.
Make positive decisions about your future.
And so much more!
If you are tired of feeling stuck and unhappy in your relationship, or you want to learn how to improve the one you have, you’ll want to join this call!
If you want, you can send questions you’d like me to address to support@lindakroll.com, and I’ll answer them live on the webinar. Anything you send me will be confidential and anonymous.
With love,
Linda
P.S. All of the call details (such as date, time, etc.) are provided once you register. Don’t worry if you can’t make it live – I’ll make sure you know how to watch the replay, but only if you are registered.
P.P.S. If anyone you know would benefit from this webinar, please FORWARD this email to them! Make sure to register yourself first. Join me on the Webinar.
“Love is the answer – and it starts with loving your SELF.”
My Prayer for a Peaceful Parting
The night before I was to be in court to finalize my divorce after a very long separation, I was moved to convert my sadness, hurt and anger into hope for a new beginning.
I wrote a prayer.
When I arrived at the courtroom, I gave a copy to my formerly beloved (and soon to be ex) husband and to his attorney. I hoped to end our marriage in a way that would set the tone for a peaceful and respectful co-creation of our future restructured family.
I wanted us to always be able to Compassionately Communicate — to connect our highest and best SELF, let go of all the limiting (and judgmental) beliefs we held, unburden pain from the past, and relate from our hearts.
I hoped we could protect our children from the shrapnel of any more animosity or conflict.
I offered it as my prayer, and for some, it can be an intention. It was my heartfelt request for a future of respectful co-parenting, genuine friendship and Compassionate Communication.
I hope others can set the same intention or recite the same prayer.
My Settlement Prayer
I pray for a peaceful and respectful settlement meeting, in which all parties come together from their Highest Selves and their truest connection to Your guidance, wisdom and love.
I pray that the parts of ourselves that are angry, fearful, defensive, revengeful, retributive, punitive, unloving, unforgiving, sad, young, abandoned, resentful, negative, hurting and hurtful – that all these parts be quelled with the leadership of the Self, coming from a place of trust in Your presence and light.
I pray for compassion, forgiveness, gratitude and appreciation. Although our marriage has come down to a business closing of money and asset division, I ask that we remember the love that brought us together, and the wonderful children, which our union has borne. For their sakes as well as our own, we wish to put an end to this process in as respectful and loving a way as possible.
Although we each carry our sadness and pain and mutual regrets, I pray that we can look beyond this difficult period to a time when we can be friends and coexist peacefully. I pray that our once intact family can be rearranged to two intact and loving homes, where our children feel connected and comfortable. I pray that we can hold in a different light the love that once joined us forever; that on the deepest level we wish each other well as we let go and let G-d direct our lives.
For the sake of all we once had, and for all we had planned to share together, let us now finalize the terms of our marital dissolution so that we are both free to get on with our lives.
Let us complete this last painful task with a sense of trust in the love we once shared and hopefully can remember after this part is over.
Let us not work from purely simple and self-serving motives, but keep in mind the general welfare of each of us, and our children.
Let us request our attorneys to contribute what is needed for the mutual benefit of all concerned.
In the end, let us know that we behaved civilly, that we can look back with a clear conscience, and that as much as we could, we came from our hearts. G-d bless us and direct us all. Amen.
His lawyer looked it over, and jokingly asked him, “Are there any changes you want to make in this document?”
We all laughed —sometimes through our tears – which is kind of like life
Even in the heartache, there can come healing and hope.
I have a passion to make the world a safer place for marriage and divorce.
Of all the wars and illnesses, I wonder how many more casualties are attributed to the fall of a family. How many innocent bystanders are harmed by the decision of two people to terminate a marriage? How many generations pay the price of familial conflict?
I know there has to be a better way. I share it with my clients daily
I help individuals and couples a new way to communicate based on empathy and compassion. They can then use these skills to talk about all their issues including parenting, feelings, finances, and even sex.
We also discuss specific issues that would be addressed if they would make a decision to separate or divorce. Possible scenarios for property division, maintenance, child support and parenting are addressed as well as day-to-day decision-making. What to tell children, parents and friends, and how to navigate the grieving and healing are also discussed.
I integrate wisdom from many teachers to create a new paradigm for conflict resolution that includes legal, financial, emotional and spiritual healing.
I believe, “Families need not be broken, but can be peacefully and respectfully re-structured.”
The anger and resentment that typify divorce are factors of unresolved fears and sadness. When couples can learn how to speak their truth from Self, connected to their Highest Power (G-d, Buddha nature, inner truth), they can have compassion for themselves and each other in a way that allows for forgiveness, healing and personal growth.
I encourage SELF-Leadership by working to unburden the “Parts” of themselves that carry pain from their past. By finding and healing their inner child, they can move forward in life with more compassion, clarity, calm, confidence, creativity, connectedness and curiosity.
I also help clients learn how to access Self directly through meditation, prayer, journaling, therapy, support groups, and different theories of healing modalities that encourage a body-mind-spirit connection and wholeness.
I want to help people
Learn how to compassionately communicate from their highest and best SELF
Create a Compassionate Relationship – no matter what form it takes.
Focus on healing pain from the past.
Practice exquisite self care.
Create a new and better relationship with their current partner OR
Experience a better way to divorce that fosters personal and spiritual growth.
Bringing spiritual wisdom – acceptance, forgiveness, humility, responsibility, compassion, non-judgment — is liberating and life-enhancing to all members of a re-structured family.
The best gift you can give your children is to minimize conflict.
Learning to love and accept yourself with compassion allows you to be more compassionate with others.
Forgiveness helps you let go with love in a way that you can feel liberated, energized and free to live your life from your highest potential.
My book and online course will help:
Individuals or couples considering divorce, going through a divorce or even post-divorce
anyone is a relationship having conflict
friends or relatives who want to offer this guidance to people who need it
Grandparents who want to give it to their children considering divorce so that the feelings and needs of the grandchildren could become a priority.
The audience could give it to their spouses, their children, or anyone touched by divorce, to help them find the gifts in the experience.
The reader would feel the book was a “spiritual and emotional guidebook” written with them in mind to help them each step of the way.
It will benefit at least 50% of the total world’s population affected by divorce because spiritual growth, rather than pain and suffering, would be the outcome of future marital dissolutions.
Create the Relationship You Desire and Deserve!
No two relationships are alike. If you take a moment to tell me about yours, I can offer you solutions to help you make the changes you need now.
