Our Stories

Our Stories

Our Stories

You might want to define yourself in terms of your “story” – what happened to you in your childhood, what is happening to you right now, who is causing you pain.

The more you tell your “story,” the less empathy you will receive from those around you. People tend to lose interest in the “yadayada” details of your life, and begin to shift their focus back to their own “yadayada”.

To receive the heart-centered support you might be seeking, have the courage to state your feelings. Your feelings are universal, and  others can relate to you no matter how different your stories might be.

The more succinctly you state your feelings, the more you can process them and release the energy charge that they carry.

Feelings are not thoughts, nor are they judgments about another. The most universal feelings are often sadness and fear. When we are hurt by those we love or trust, it causes profound feelings, which must be acknowledged. We cannot change anyone else, but we can learn how to speak our truth clearly and compassionately.

We often get angry because our boundaries have been violated.  Acknowledging your anger (rather than ignoring it or becoming enraged), will help you take appropriate action to begin to regain your balance.

Go into your heart and see what your feelings are right now. Share them with another compassionate heart, and begin to heal.

And forgive everyone, including yourself.

People From Our Past

People From Our Past

There are people from our past who have hurt us in many different ways. Some of those people might be our parents, who may have done the best they knew how to do.

Although we want to forgive them, we wish we could tell them how they hurt us, but we are afraid of hurting them. Or we are afraid to anger them. We are concerned about the responsibility we feel to manage their feelings, so instead we suppress our own.

What if we could  speak for the parts of us that are still carrying the burdens from the past?

What are we afraid would happen if we used words like “hurt” and “sad” and “scared” and “angry”?

What if we spoke up for our wounded inner child, even though our caretaking parts are afraid of burdening someone else?

What if we gave ourselves permission to speak our feelings out loud?

What if we gave other people the right to speak their own feelings, and gave ourselves permission NOT to fix, save or rescue them from what they might feel?

What if we learned to set healthy and appropriate boundaries for ourselves and others?

What if we could walk away if a relationship feels toxic?

People from our past can be our biggest teachers.

Even if we never choose to share our feelings with them,we can express our feelings here and now.

And we can accept all parts of ourselves with compassion  and unconditional love.

We can feel what we feel, and in this moment, we can be safe.

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