In these difficult times, relationships are strained to their limits.
In the past 30 years as a therapist, mediator, and attorney, I have created a process for helping individuals and couples — to add passion to their marriage, or compassion to their divorce.
It’s called the Compassionate Mediation® Program, and
I’d like to give you the ROADMAP so that you can use it with your clients now.
You can use it in person. You can use it online.
And you could offer healing and transformation when the world needs it the most.
There are many more tools that I want to offer you.
So from my heart to yours, please take the 30 years of experience I’ve had as in IFS therapist mediator, attorney, Chopra certified teacher of meditation, Ayurveda and yoga.
I put all my training and experience into this process and I’m offering it to you.
I offer you a program that can take your relationship from where it is to wherever you’d like it to be.
If you’re happy and would like your relationship to be better, it will help.
If you’re feeling stuck and don’t know what to do next, the program will help.
If you’re separating or thinking of separating, check out the information there.
And even if you’re in the middle of a divorce, the Program for Compassionate Mediation is going to help you relate with more empathy and compassion and restructure your family without needing to break it.
I’m so excited to announce that I am starting a certification program for therapists and coaches — and also mediators, attorneys, clergy, counselors, to help people communicate better and to resolve their differences.
Over 30 years ago, I combined my degrees in therapy, mediation, and law.
I’ve taken courses at the Chopra Center. I’m a meditation teacher, yoga teacher and Ayurveda teacher.
I combine the psychological and spiritual, the legal and financial information that I want to give to you so that you can give it to your clients, because together we can help change the face of divorce and conflict in general, one heart at a time.
And I’d love to give you the benefit of my 35 years of degrees and experience to let you take this process of Compassionate Mediation wherever you are in the world and use it to help your clients.
And if you’re a therapist or a coach, you can get up to 40 hours of continuing education credits, because my course is approved by the National Board of Certified Counselors, and it’s also approved by the International Coach Federation.
When a marriage is in crisis, both people are often suffering from unmet expectations, dashed hopes, stored resentments, impenetrable walls, quiet desperation, and even overt war. At such an intense emotional impasse—couples will fall into a mode of either fight-or-flight or frozen purgatory—and neither is the place from which to make life-altering decisions.
I have worked with thousands of men and women who come to me for a divorce because they had been living in pain for years without making any changes.
Compassionate Mediation® gives you the tools to make changes before divorce is the ONLY option, and if it becomes the final option, Compassionate Mediation® offers you a way to create a Compassionate SELF-led Divorce®.
For over 35 years, as a therapist, mediator and attorney, I have worked with thousands of individuals and couples who want to improve (or leave) their relationships. My heart goes out to each one of them. Often, I wish I had been able to help them years before our first visit, because they could have avoided the pain, anger or sadness that had affected their lives.
I can only see a limited number of clients in person each week, and my hope is to reach people everywhere with a message of self love, hope, possibility and happiness.
My goal in creating this course is to share what I have been doing for decades so that people all over the world could learn the skills of Compassionate Communication. You can learn how to heal the pain from your past, let go of limiting beliefs, connect to your spiritual source and relate from your highest and best SELF.
It’s no secret that half of all first marriages end in divorce. But it may be surprising to learn that the failure rates for second and third failed marriages get even worse: 67 and 73 percent, respectively, according to a 2012 article in Psychology Today, “The High Failure Rate of Second and Third Marriages.”
But what about the statistics on married people who are “thinking” about divorce?
Researchers estimate that 1 in 3 divorced couples try to reconcile later, according to a paper written by a noted marriage scholar and therapist. Also, a significant number of divorced individuals—about half—say they wished they or their spouse had tried harder to save the marriage.
In other words, divorce is all too common, and there’s a lot of regret out there. It’s these people—the ones at a crossroads of their marriage—that represent the primary market for this book, as well as those struggling with challenges in their marriage and seeking to make their union healthier, richer, deeper.
Compassionate Mediation®for Relationships at a Crossroadswill show you how to become more conscious of your own behaviors as you better understand yourself and your partner, and create something new, together.
I’ll share with you the secrets to becoming more empathetic and considerate.
You’ll finally be able to talk about every subject with clarity and courage, including finances, parenting, responsibilities, extended family, and sex.
You’ll learn how to ask for and get your needs met as you lower your “walls,” change the “filters” through which you see yourself and your partner, and forgive yourself and each other.
You’ll remember how to be grateful again for what you do have, and learn how to reflect the attention, affection, appreciation, and acceptance you both desire.
The world needs to be a safer place for marriage and divorce.
Children should be shielded from the shrapnel of their parents’ animosity. This book will offer a new paradigm for couples at a crossroads.
I believe that families need not be “broken,” but can be peacefully, and respectfully, restructured.
This bookwill give individuals and couples the roadmap they need—whether they choose to put passion into saving their marriage, or compassion into getting a divorce.
As a therapist, mediator, attorney, and Chopra-certified Vedic Master, I’ve successfully applied this approach to thousands of couples in my twenty years of private practice.
Couplesno longer have to spend years “on the fence” in an unhappy, dysfunctional relationship.
Through this book, readers will learn how to set healthy boundaries, as well as how to ask for what they truly want and need — even if it means they can only give it to themselves!
Compassionate Mediation is about helping couples get “unstuck” and clear so they can move forward—whether that means reviving their marriage and starting anew—or ending the relationship with compassion for both their sakes.
In-between the weeping, beauty abounds: my story
I once was where you are now, and it’s a painful, lonely place.
I discussed my situation with friends, family members, and loved ones, but in the end, no one could make the decision for me.
There were moments when I was clear and determined, but more often, I was trapped in a state of limbo, unable to leave but unhappy in the marriage. Because I’ve experienced divorce firsthand, I have much to share about what to do—and what NOT to do.
For years, I asked myself, “Should I stay or should I go?”
In the decade it took me to finally decide, I took the pain of my own failings and missteps, and turned them into lessons learned and methods developed that are now helping others succeed.
As I struggled with my own marriage and emotions, I returned to school to study psychotherapy, earning my second graduate degree and becoming a licensed clinical professional counselor, as well as a mediator and attorney.
Surely, I thought, as a lawyer, mediator, and therapist, I could get us through our divorce as smoothly and painlessly as possible. But trying to mediate your own divorce is like trying to deliver your own baby. Sure, it may be remotely possible, but ultimately, it’s way too difficult.
I tried to make our divorce “picture perfect,” until I realized: codependence isn’t the same thing as compassion, and that yes, LOVE is the answer, but it starts with loving your SELF.
During my journey of self-discovery and healing, I became the oldest Vedic Master trained by Deepak Chopra, David Simon, and Davidji at the Chopra Center University (the trifecta of certifications). I used to say I got my Medicare card in May and my Vedic Master card in June.
I’ve always believed that our struggles are part of our dharma or purpose.
We can only offer wisdom to others by healing ourselves.
I’ve learned through the years that being open and vulnerable with others, that sharing from the heart is more powerful medicine than ten degrees or theories. Hard-earned wisdom has finally surpassed my education, and I want to share it all.
It’s the mistakes I made along the way that may help you the most.
This book will lead you through the steps you need to take so you can resolve your issues for the highest good of all concerned. Love is the answer, and it starts with loving your SELF.
Through the art of Compassionate Mediation, you’ll learn how to heal burdens from your past, let go of limiting beliefs, connect to your Spiritual Source, and relate from your highest and best SELF.
So instead of asking the question “Should I stay or should I go?” you’ll now consider, “How can I bring my best SELF to this relationship and transform it from the inside out?”
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I’d like to help you heal and transform your relationships.
Please just take a deep breath.
With so much that’s been going on in the world right now, our relationships are strained to the limit.
Whether there’s too much togetherness, not enough hugs, whatever we’re missing, we have ways of reacting that aren’t always our best SELF.
Think of a challenging relationship.
When you think of a relationship right now that you’re having conflict with, or that’s making you a little uncomfortable, just notice what happens to your body.
Notice the stories you tell yourself about the other person and notice how you feel, how you get constricted inside.
I want to help you get to your best SELF, and — in the next couple minutes — know how to bring that best SELF back to your relationship today to make things better.
Rumi said, “We’re not just the drop in the ocean, we’re the ocean in the drop.
When we come from our highest SELF, that mindful, calm, compassionate center, we do connect with that oneness that’s in our heart.
That’s our soul. That’s our spirit that’s connected to the other person’s.
We are spiritual beings having a human experience.
But we’re human, so we get reactive and we exile some of our feelings. If we feel hurt, or sad, or mad sometimes, or scared, we’ve pushed all that aside.
We go out in the world and we manage and we try to be hardworking, or pleasing, or caretaking. And then when that gets too cumbersome, we get extreme in certain ways. So you might be eating too much, or drinking too much, or watching too much TV, or getting depressed, or a number of ways to behave.
Your True SELF is always there.
So let’s take a deep breath and know that underneath all of that, you have a very healthy SELF that’s calm, clear, and compassionate.
The only time you can change another person is when they’re in diapers.
You’re not going to change the people in your life right now. You can change in how you’re relating to them.
Let’s see if you can take a breath, a couple belly breaths. Inhale, belly expands, exhale, release back to your spine. Just a couple more.
Invite all those parts that have judgments, and limiting beliefs, and your walls around your heart, and your filters through which you’re seeing the other person — see if those parts can relax just a little bit so that you can get to that calm, compassionate center that is your soul.
Whatever the problem, love is the answer, but it starts with loving yourself.
So, how can you be more loving to yourself right now?
What can you do to take care of yourself, to meditate more, to journal, to go for walks — to give yourself the attention, affection, appreciation, and acceptance that you’re looking for from someone else?
The more you fill up with your own compassion for everything that you’re going through right now — and I’m sure there is a lot that each of us is going through right now — when you have compassion for yourself and fill up with that, it will then be emanating from you and you’ll bring more compassion to your life and relationships.
Compassionate Communication
Connect to your best SELF
Let go of limiting beliefs
Unburden pain from your past
Relate from your HEART
You can compassionately communicate as you connect to your highest self with breath, gratitude, meditation, prayer.
Connect to your best self as you let go of your limiting beliefs and give yourself time to unburden pain from the past.
You can stay in the present moment and not regurgitate the past or project it in the future, and then relate from your heart.
It’s in your heart where your soul resides.
It’s in your heart where you’re going to connect.Know that no matter what you’re going through, everyone else in your life is going through it now, too.
As you can bring a little more breath, a little more awareness, a little more SELF-leadership, a little more higher consciousness, you can change any relationship starting now.
I wish you love and happiness from my heart to yours, take good care.
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