Gratitude changes everything!
In working with hundreds of individuals and couples, I often marvel at the mistakes they keep making when they are relating to their partner.
• They think they are being honest, when they are being judgmental.
• They believe they are being authentic, when they are unforgiving.
• They stay angry and resentful, waiting for their partner to change.
• They ruminate on their partner’s past mistakes and project that same behavior in the future.
• They only look at the relationship from their own perspective, without truly considering their partner’s feelings, needs and desires.
Do you do any of that in your relationship? If so, you’re probably feeling sad, discontent, or unhappy.
The needs of the heart are Attention, Acceptance, Appreciation, and Affection.
Failure to offer them (when you truly would like more as well), leads to separations, break-ups and divorce.
But you don’t have to make the mistakes you might be making.
A “gaffe” is defined as a “stupid or careless mistake, for example when you say or do something that offends or upsets people.”
I am using that acronym as a reminder of what is needed for true healing and transformation to occur.
• Gratitude
• Acceptance
• Forgiveness
• Faith
• Empathy
At some point in a relationship, you have a choice to complain, make things better, or leave.
Try GAFFE before you decide.
Gratitude
Have full/half empty.
As you replace your discontent, disapproval, desire to change – with GRATITUDE, you’ll see an immediate shift in your relationship.
Sam Keen has said, “We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.”
Look through the lens of gratitude for what is instead of judgment for what is lacking.
Acceptance
You are powerless to change anyone else.
When you offer acceptance (instead of judgment or blame), it changes the energy between you, and your partner can feel seen and appreciated and possibly grow more into who you need them to be.
On the other hand, you can accept someone and still choose not to stay with them. If you accept first, it makes the parting kinder and more respectful, instead of angry and retributive.
Accept first, decide what to do later.
Forgiveness
Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself.
You don’t need a scorecard to keep you strong enough to leave.
Start over, with a clean slate and an open heart.
Then if you are not compatible, you can be free of the pain and resentment and end the relationship with calm, clear, confident choices.
Faith
Just because things happened or were missing in the past doesn’t mean that is how it will always be.
Have faith things can change and work out for the highest good for all concerned.
You can stay open to possibilities when you are not perseverating about the past or worrying about the future.
Empathy
Seek to understand even if you don’t feel understood.
When you are willing to look at the situation from your higher Self, which includes looking at it through your partner’s eyes, you will soften in your approach, and allow miracles to occur
You can do this. You can also offer Gratitude, Acceptance, Forgiveness, Faith and Empathy to yourself as well as your partner.
Everyone is doing the best they know how to do according to their level of awareness at the time.
Start over.
Bring the love and light that you are into your current relationship, and watch what happens.
I’m here to help.
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