Interview

Linda Kroll is an Internal Family Systems therapist, mediator, attorney, and Chopra certified Master Teacher of meditation, yoga, and perfect health.

Linda merges psychotherapy and spirituality along with her financial and legal information to provide a unique method of relationship healing and transformation from the inside out. 

She has her original systems of learning, Compassionate Meditation®, and Self-led Divorce® that have helped to change the lives of many people going through divorce. She does this one heart at a time. She is also a recent international best-selling author of the book, Compassionate Mediation® for Relationships at a Crossroads: How to Add Passion to Your Marriage or Compassion to Your Divorce.

P: Linda, I’d love to start for those who haven’t had the pleasure of knowing you yet, if you could tell us a little bit about your background and how you came to your passion and purpose, because you have such a varied and distinguished background.

LK: Thank you. I appreciate that and the introduction as well. To make the Reader’s Digest veesion of a long story as short as possible, I’m going to start when I was a little girl and then go for ward. I’m just kidding, but actually that is what I’m going to do, because there’s an inner child in all of us.

When I go back to my childhood, when I was very young, I had wonderful parents. My father is gone. My mother, thank God, is 94 and still with us. My father was an undiagnosed manic depres- sive when I was growing up, so there was a lot of yelling in my little two-bedroom house that I shared with my parents and my brother. 

When I was a little girl, I would leave letters on the kitchen table before I’d go to bed. “Please talk nicer to each other. Just please talk nicer.” The letters would be gone, and nothing would be changed.

Now 65 or so years later, I’m writing and sometimes people are actually reading what I’m writing, as opposed to my parents who didn’t. 

It’s always been about how can we talk with more compassion to each other. How can we be kinder? How can we understand ourselves with more kindness and self-love?

Jump ahead, many years later. I met and married my college sweetheart. We had two wonderful daughters. About 20 years into the marriage, I realized I was looking at divorce for a lot of different reasons. 

Right after I had graduated college, I went to law school. I was a psych major. I went to law school, but I was fortunate to be able to stay home with my children. I told people I was doing family law, but I was really being a mom.

When I was looking at a divorce, even though I had my legal degree and license, I went back to become a mediator. I thought perhaps I could mediate my own divorce, but I often say that mediating your own divorce is kind of like delivering your own baby. It might be possible, but not the way you want to go.

Shortly after that, I knew that law and mediation were good for me to offer, but it didn’t really meet the fulfillment I wanted, so I went back to school and I became a licensed clinical professional counselor and I found Dick Schwartz and the Internal Family Systems way of doing therapy.

If anybody saw Inside Out, the Disney movie, I learned that from Dick 20 years ago and have been helping my clients with it, with the idea that we all have a higher SELF.

When we’re connected to that higher self, we’re calm, we’re clear, we’re compassionate. Instead of coming from our higher SELF, we’re usually coming from the Parts that were in the movie and many other parts.

I can explain that a little bit more later, but that’s what I brought to my practice – how do we get to our highest self, speak for the parts of us that are sad and scared and hurt, and not try to manage our pain by being stoic or codependent, and not get extreme when we can't manage the pain by eating too much or drinking or having an affair or however people cope. 

How do you love yourself enough to connect to your highest self, let go of any limiting beliefs that you’ve had since childhood, unburden any pain that you’ve had, and really relate from your heart?

That’s the purpose of the book.

Teach people how to do it, and teach them to do it at a time when they are most confused and most in pain. That’s when they’re considering staying or leaving the relationship or marriages that they’re in.

P: How powerful is this? What a great contribution to the world! There’s always been a lot of need for what you do, but probably nev- er more than there is now.

LK: Thank you. I believe we’re all spiritual. It’s not my quote, but I

do believe that ‘we’re all spiritual beings having a human experience.’

In our human experience, we often react. When we’re coming from our highest self, we can observe and witness and respond. 

To learn how to do that more, the Chopra Center came to Chicago, which is where I’m from, several years ago. Deepak Chopra and David Simon, Davidji and Claire Diab from the Chopra Center came and taught meditation, yoga, and Ayurveda, perfect health.

It called to me because my monkey mind – that 60,000 thoughts a day, ADD-related mind – would go on and on and on without an ability to really get to that quiet center that I knew that I had. 

In studying meditation, I later learned how to teach it, along with yoga and with Ayurveda. I’m very proud to say that I think I’m one of 300, maybe 350 people in the world that have reached the level of Master Teacher that the Chopra Center out of California gives. 

I weave into all that do, whether it’s individual counseling, couples counseling, divorce mediation, or coaching families. I weave into all of it the spiritual as well as the psychological, and then if people need it, both the legal and financial information too.

P: It’s just really incredible. It’s such an unusual technique.

LK: Thank you. That’s what led to the book, and the full title of the book is, Compassionate Mediation For Relationships at a Crossroad. The subtitle is, How to Add Passion to Your Marriage or Compassion to Your Divorce. The reason that I did that is because I have a lot of people. I’ve been seeing private clients and couples for almost 25 years now, and when they come to see me, they’re often so hurt and so confused that I realized the people who were in the most pain were the ones that were really up in the air about what they wanted to do.

Did they want to stay? Did they want to go? I looked at why did they want to go? Was it really irreconcilable? If they learned how to forgive themselves and each other, would it be possible to create something new?

Over the years, I’ve found myself saying the same thing over and over to the people that would come in. 

The first session would be all about how do you get to your higher self. I would teach them the miracle of empathy, and then I went over information they would need to know if they would get divorced, like what would they do about their property division? What would they do for maintenance? What would they do about co-parenting or child support?

Once they had those bits of information coupled with a newfound ability to really speak with empathy and compassion and forgiveness, they had the opportunity to create a brand new relationship that was out of their reach before.

I wanted to make these tools available to everyone, wherever they are, in their relationship. If an individual comes to see me alone or reads the book, they have access to all this information that i give to my clients in my office.

P: That is so wonderful and the really beautiful thing about your book is that it went international bestseller. Now these tools and this unique approach are available to people all over the world.

LK: It is, and I want to acknowledge you, for anyone reading, who wants to work and have that same trajectory for their book, to really hire Viki to give you the tools to reach all those people in a way that you wouldn’t be able to yourself.

I am so eternally grateful to you, Viki, both your wisdom and your knowledge and your personality and the late night calls that went on during the book launch. I couldn’t have done it without you, and so grateful for all your help, truly.

P: Thank you so much. It’s always so lovely to be working with a really, really fine author and information that again is so incredibly valuable for people across the globe to be able to access. I think everyone has some information in them that they need to release, but this book is really very, very special. Linda, you’ve been doing this in a therapeutic setting for a long time. What made you decide to start writing the book?

LK: The reality is I would like to eventually make the tools available to everyone because as a mediator, I have a certain hourly rate, and when people come to see me, they pay that. 

What I teach is more important than me, so I would like the system out there.

I would like the system helping people. 

Beyond that, I would like to train other people to deliver Compassionate Mediation so that it becomes a whole new paradigm for conflict resolution  —  that anytime an individual or a couple is uncertain about where to go, they seek out someone who knows how to help them do Compassionate Mediation. 

That new ability  which is more than marriage counseling and more than divorce mediation, is a combination of the two of them in ways that they wouldn’t normally get.

To explain a little further, usually when a couple would come to me, there would be at least one member–sometimes two–but one member who thought more marriage counseling was going to be a waste of time. 

They weren’t really invested in being present for more of the same. The other party didn’t want to talk about a divorce, because they were still hoping that a miracle would happen. 

What Compassionate Mediation does and what the book does is give you the framework for talking about both and at the same time you’re learning forgiveness, compassion, and empathy, and all of the legal/financial issues, and even the parenting issues, and even the sexual issues that may divide you–finding a whole new way to communicate from your heart instead of from your head that has been judging and blaming and defending for sometimes years or decades.

P: What a fantastic position to be coming from. Regardless of what the outcome is, it has to just really enrich the relationship.

LK: Not only does it enrich the relationship, it saves the children the agony of what a typical divorce, separation, or even cold war happens, because children know everything.

 Even if you’re not overtly fighting, they can see when a relationship is in trouble. They can see when parents don’t respect each other, don’t get along, aren’t affectionate, have their walls up around their heart to defend themselves, or are seeing their partner through the filter of judgment, which always strains the energy between them or the tone of their voice.

This process, Compassionate Mediation, can be used at any time, before, during, after separation, conflict, after a divorce, even to heal the family in a way that allows for two people who once loved each other to co-create a new relationship, whether it’s a new marriage that’s more passionate — or a separation or divorce that’s respectful, that really heals at the same time that it transforms.

P: That’s such a beautiful picture. Linda, you are such a busy lady. How did you determine that you wanted to write a book from the standpoint of the creative side? How do you boost your creativity with all that you’ve got going and all the business that you have going on to make that happen?

LK: I’d just tell anybody out there who’s thinking of it, just don’t give up on your dreams, because I think the first draft of this particular book began in 2000, if not before.

I just always knew that the message was important to share, because I think we’re all co-creators of whatever we create, and the universe, God, the divine, will work through us if we get our egos out of the way and let it.

I always knew that the book was there. It’s not my line, but like Michelangelo with the marble – ‘You just chisel away what’s not necessary and you get to the message that’s there.’

The message is really that love is the answer, but it starts with loving yourself.

My job as a therapist, as a mediator, as an attorney, as a coach, is to help people recognize that they’re already divine.

They already have inside them all they need, and possibly from their childhood, from other experiences, they have learned a certain way to manage their lives and manage their relationships, but it’s not really from their highest. It’s not really from their truest self. 

They have to learn how to love themselves enough to be authentic, the courage to speak their truth, and to know that there is a divine plan for their life. 

Even if they choose to leave their partner, there’s a divine plan for that parting that doesn’t have to be what the typical divorce has been in the past, which is adversarial and antagonistic, and ultimately destructive.

P: Yes, part of loving yourself is, as you say, when you have a dream as you did to actually get this out to the world in the way of a book. It is honoring yourself and loving yourself to give you the time in a busy schedule to be able to create that vehicle, that book.

LK: It took much more focus. I often say that it was much more difficult to deliver than my two children. It took much longer. It took many more hours to focus. I’m a little ADD, so that was dif- ficult.

I had two wonderful editors, CJ Schepers and also my cousin, Leonard Sharp, both two wonderful editors who were able to hone me in and get it done. 

It’s also learning how to ask for help. Anything that you think you want to do, I would say get help for it. 

I took Christine’s Kloser Get Your Book Done course. I took Big Beautiful Book Plan from Linda Sivertsen and Danielle LaPorte. 

I’m happy to say that my transformational author book proposal was chosen both by Hay House and by New World Library as a winner. I ended up publishing it myself so I could get it out now.

I also am planning courses around it to either help the people who need Compassionate Mediation or train the people who want to learn it. 

As far as the creative process goes, it’s really just giving yourself permission instead of looking for perfection and taking it a step at a time in as bite-sized chunks as possible. 

The last mentor I want to mention – not the last, but one of my major ones, is the fabulous SARK – Susan Ariel Rainbow Kennedy.

I had the privilege of working with her both online and privately, and her beloved Dr. John Waddell were both mentors of mine who helped me to see that if I’m coming from an energy or pushing or needing to get it done or ego driven, it’s going to be hard. 

If I could really get into a flow of knowing that I am being guided, and if I just show up in what SARK calls micro movements, little bits at a time, that the “how it’s going to get done” isn't as important as taking one step of inspired action at a time. That’s how I got it done.

P: So beautiful. What do you hope readers more specifically will take away from the book? If you had to pick one or two things, what would you like to see that be?

LK: Love and forgiveness.

P: That’s so simple and yet so unbelievably powerful.

LK: What I teach about compassionate communication and empathy and loving yourself and knowing you’re divine and the five steps to getting what you want and need, 

it helps every relationship. 

It’s a way of communicating that honors the higher self in your child, your parent, your coworker, your friend so that communication can shift from talking at someone to talking with someone or talking from your heart and your judgement and your blame, of talking with your head with those things, to really reaching into your heart and forgiving yourself and the other par- ty for not being better, knowing you’ve done the best you could, and from this point forward, you have a chance to do it better. 

Love and forgiveness are miracle changers.

Seven Tips

Seven Tips to Improve All Your Relationships:

Offer Your Most Compassionate SELF

Stay CALM in the middle of any situation.

Be CLEAR about your intentions, which include the highest good for all concerned.

Be COMPASSIONATE to the other’s feelings, needs and desires, as well as compassionate to your own feelings, needs and desires.

Be CONFIDENT that you will know what to do if you meditate on the outcome you desire that is fair to both parties.

Be CURIOUS about the other person’s point of view, and give them a chance to feel heard and understood.

Be CREATIVE in coming to a resolution that is more than a compromise and allows for a joyful solution.

Stay CONNECTED to your heart, your feelings, and also to the heart of the other. Don’t let the fear in your head override the love that you can find for your shared humanity.

Be COURAGEOUS in asking for what you want and need, setting appropriate boundaries, and being willing to leave if the relationship is one that can’t sustain the fullness of who you truly are.

Stay GRATEFUL for this opportunity to heal, grow and transform.

All Roads Lead to Self

How to Attain Inner Guidance

Angels

Art

Ask for it

Body Scan

Breathe

Channeling

Children

Chi gong

Collage Making

Coloring

Connecting

Dance

Deep Breathing

Drawing

Dreams

Flowers

Focusing

Guided Imagery

Intuition

Journaling

Knowing Place

Labyrinth

Letting Go

Listening

Loving

Mandala

Mantra

Meditation

Miracles

Movement

Music

Nature

Nia

Painting

Parts – sending love

Pause

Pets

Prayer

Private Place

Running

Silence

Singing

Sleeping

Slowing Down

Solitude

Space

Sports

Stars

Surrender

Sweat Lodge

Synchronicity

Swimming

Tai Chi

Talking

Quiet Mind and Body

Walking

Workshops

Writing

Yoga

Believe in Your SELF

No matter what has happened in your life or relationships, 

You already have everything you need
to come home to your SELF.

Hi, and welcome. I am so happy you are here.

After all that has challenged us in the last year, I want to take a few minutes to help you access your highest and best Self. 

Your SELF and Your “Parts”

I believe we all have a healthy SELF. When we are in SELF we are calm, clear, compassionate. Do you know those moments?

They are usually just moments. We are not always “in SELF.” We are often blended with our PARTS.

Think of your PARTS as the different voices you hear in your head. 

Sometimes a Part of you wants to make one choice and you have another voice with a different thought or feeling about it.

There are three categories of PARTS 

  • EXILES
  • MANAGERS
  • EXTREME  

The EXILES are the parts we learned in childhood weren’t going to get our needs met. If we felt sad, scared, hurt, vulnerable–we didn’t want to feel that way, so we pushed those feelings aside. Some of us exiled our anger too, because it wasn’t safe to express it. 

The Exiles often wonder, “What about me? Who is going to love and care for me the way I need?” 

We often store the energy of the EXILE’S pain somewhere in our bodies. We don’t want to feel the emotional burdens of the EXILES, so we figure out ways to MANAGE. 

We go into our heads, and with the help of our Egos, we create the PARTS of us we show the world. We can learn to be nice, pleasing, caretaking.

We can become hardworking, judgmental, blaming. Some of us manage our exiled pain and sadness by becoming angry.Many of us put on what I call a “pseudo-self” when we try to look like we’re “in SELF,” but those EXILED feelings of sadness, fear, or anger are still very present and churning.

When the energy of those EXILES threatens to upset our internal system, and our MANAGERS can no longer contain them and protect us, we have EXTREME parts that activate to numb using some way.

We choose behaviors that take the focus off our EXILE’s pain and give us moments of escape. Some people get addicted to some of those behaviors –with alcohol, drugs, sex, gambling, shopping, staying busy, staying in bed, putting up internal walls, getting enraged. 

When the EXTREME parts take over, we continue to ignore those EXILED parts and just focus on the EXTREME behaviors –and then the guilt and shame we have because of that behavior –but we effectively continue to ignore the feelings of our Inner Child.

There are ways to unburden that original pain. The first step in letting it go is to acknowledge that it is there. No running away or avoidance or pushing it aside. 

You offer loving Compassionate Communication from your Highest SELF to those hurting parts that need and want YOUR attention.You may not have received that attention, affection, appreciation, acceptance as a child, but you can now. 

Your parents or caregivers did the best they knew how to do, considering their upbringings and their level of awareness at the time.

Now you can do better.

You can give yourself the compassion, love, attention, and validation you have always wanted.

You can forgive yourself for all choices –the ones you made and the ones you avoided.

You can accept yourself for who you are now –knowing that you are doing the best you know how to do, and you can grow more from self-love and self-care than you can from self-doubt and criticism.

You can begin to COMMUNICATE more COMPASSIONATELY with yourself in every thought you think.

And you can accept and love all of your Parts,which are ALL trying to protect you in some way. They are locked in jobs they have been doing all your life. 

Once you give your PARTS all the attention they need to unburden the pain from the past, they carry their own wisdom and light.

You can start to speak FOR your PARTS,rather than FROM your parts.You can rescue your Inner Child from any painful or traumatic event and remind him or her that you survived and how far you have come from that experience.

You can tap into your connection to your faith, your soul, your spirit,and remember there is an infinite source of unconditional love, acceptance, compassion and forgiveness available to you by just remembering it’s there. 

When you OPEN yourself to RECEIVE that Spiritual connection of love, faith and your divine essence, you just shine that light on your Internal System of PARTS, and shower yourself with love.

As you become more compassionate and loving towards all parts of yourself, you will have more compassion and love to share with the people closest to you –and with the world. 

When your Parts feel YOUR attention, affection,appreciation and acceptance, they are free to evolve.

Your Inner Critic can change to a loving Inner Coach. 

Your Rage can turn into your Boundary Monitor, helping you learn how to say “no” when “no” is what you prefer, and how to leave situations that aren’t in your highest good. 

Your Protective Parts can shift and change and calm and connect. 

There doesn’t have to be an internal polarity because they all have a seat at the table, but YOU, coming from your Highest Self, connected to your Divine Spirit –YOU are in charge. 

Over time, your Parts learn to trust You in SELF, and you feel more calm, clear, compassionate, curious, creative, connected, grateful, peaceful, joyful, and loving. 

Here are some ways to get to SELF:

Roads Lead to Self: How to Attain Inner Guidance

Angels

Art

Ask for it

Body Scan

Breathe

Channeling

Children

Collage Making

Coloring

Connecting

Dance

Deep Breathing

Drawing

Dreams

Flowers

Focusing

Guided Imagery

Intuition

Journaling

Knowing Place

Labyrinth

Letting Go

Listening

Loving

Mandala

Mantra

Meditation

Miracles

Movement

Music

Nature

Nia

Painting

Parts -­‐sending love

Pause

Pets

Prayer

Private Place

Running

Silence

Singing

Sleeping

Slowing Down

Solitude

Space

Sports

Stars

Surrender

Sweat Lodge

Synchronicity

Swimming

Tai Chi

Talking

Qigong

Quiet Mind and Body

Walking

Workshops

Writing

Yoga

MEDITATION 

When you learn to meditate, you practice being in the silence that exists between your thoughts. 

It allows you to access your true SELF, divine SELF, or spirit, and begin to make choices that align with your true purpose and joy.

You stop the attention you give to your “monkey mind”and habitual thoughts. 

You learn how to be here now, love what is, and be the calm in the middle of the storm.

You learn how to look at life from a higher state of consciousness, where you are no longer reacting from a fight/flight or freeze state. 

You learn how be less reactive, more responsive, intuitive and creative. 

You learn that you can’t solve a problem from the level of awareness that created the problem.

You have to look at a situation from SELF, understanding your parts and others’ parts. 

You can have compassion for all of them, and then make your decisions from the highest and best part of yourself, knowing in your soul that we are all spiritual beings having a human experience. 

And we are all doing the best we know how to do.

Meditation allows us to have more direct access to SELF. 

The more we meditate, the more SELF we can experience and share. 

When there is a critical mass of SELF-present, no matter where it comes from or who is showing it, the situation can shift and become more calm and connected immediately.

If you are talking to a spouse, a child, a parent, a loved one,a co-worker, a friend, being in SELF fosters Compassionate Communication.


Being in SELF:
Understand Your Parts

Meditate

Take a Breath

You can get to SELF by unburdening your parts, by practicing meditation, and by taking one breath to get to that stillness within.

TAKE ONE BREATH

For just a moment, I’d like you to notice your body. Just focus inward and scan your body from the top of your head to the soles of your feet, and just notice. Notice any tension or tightness, now notice what you are feeling or thinking. Just notice. 

There may be some tightness in your jaw, shoulders, neck, stomach. You may feel some tension in your head, hands, chest. Just notice.

Now please take a breath. One conscious breath.Inhale, hold, exhale, hold. Once more. One deep breath. Inhale, hold, exhale, release.

Inhale “peace”, exhale “love”. Inhale “love”, exhale “peace”. 

One breath. Let go.You’re already more in SELF.

For a few seconds you got present, tuned into your body, stopped thinking about any problem, and allowed yourself to just be here now.

You can get to SELF by:

Unburden Your Parts

Meditate

Take a Conscious Breath

Gratitude

GRATITUDE

One other way to get to SELF is to be GRATEFUL. When you are aware of your blessings, no matter what the external situation seems to be, you can come back to that awareness of all the miracles that are currently available,and compassionately communicate with yourself and the world.

One moment at a time, one person at a time, we can become the change we hope to see.

When you believe in your SELF — and stay in constant contact through understanding and loving your Parts — meditate, breathe, and be grateful, life becomes more peaceful, loving and filled with joy.

The SELF in me recognizes and cherishes the beautiful and Divine SELF that is YOU!

Namaste.

Sending you much love,

Linda

How to Love Your  SELF

1. Think of all the things you've always wanted to do if you had time. Do one -or don't.

2. Get in bed and vegetate. Don't be afraid you'll never get out again. You will

3. Rent movies.

4. Read -a magazine, poetry, a good book, anything.

5. Get a manicure, pedicure, massage -or give yourself one

.6. Plan a trip, a spa-day, a bus ride, a day off, a lunch date. (Call a travel agent to consider a vacation).

7. Give yourself permission NOT TO: bake, cook, clean, shop, or do laundry, dishes, or ironing.

8. Get used to the novelty of deciding what you want to do –and doing some of it.

9. Let go of expectations of yourself and others.

10. Change your paradigm.

11. Set aside some time to be sad, if you want to.

12.Cry.

13.Call a friend or family member.

14.Write a letter, note, poem, short story, your novel.

15.Learn to understand yourself.

16. Join Al Anon or AA.

17. Go to extra meetings.

18. Buy a present for yourself.

19. Make something special to eat — just for you.

20. Get in bed and eat chocolate.

21.Find a new hobby.

22.Play the piano.

23. Paint, color.

24. Think about classes you may want to take and look through catalogues.

25. Entertain.

26. If you do entertain, make it as easy on yourself as possible — paper plates, pot luck.

27. Exercise (walk, yoga, pilates, bike, swim, lift weights, dance!)

28. Breathe deeply, often.

29. Meditate.

30. Hire a babysitter and go out — or stay home.

31. Ask the kids to tuck you in.

32. Take your pet for a walk.

33. Go to a park and swing –or slide!

34. Take a bath.

35. Volunteer.

36.Say “no” when you don't want to do something.

37.Journal.

38.Give yourself permission to do what you want, when you want, with whom you want.

39Connect with your Inner Child. Give him or her a hug.

40.Listen to his/her feelings to help heal. Empower him/her to have fun and to feel safe, calm, and happy.

Linda Kroll LCPC,JD
Therapist, Mediator, Attorney

As a therapist, mediator and attorney, I have shared Compassionate Communication with thousands of men and women for over 20 years. 

I have had the privilege of learning from Dr, Richard Schwartz, Founder of Internal Family Systems and became a Certified IFS Practitioner. I later completed five years of study with Deepak Chopra, David Simon, davidji, and the other wonderful instructors at the Chopra Center University to become a Vedic Master, a teacher of meditation, yoga and perfect health.

I have been mentored by SARK, Susan Ariel Rainbow Kennedy, who adds fun and play with all that she joyfully creates. 

I am a Level Two Reiki Master, grateful lifelong learner, who has had the benefit of many wise teachers and guides.

Today, I am grateful to work with hundreds of women and men as they learn to treat themselves with more kindness and respect so they have more to share with others. 

As I have become more SELF-led, I am calmer, clearer and more compassionate with myself and others. 

I began to heal from the experiences of my past and understand and accept all parts of myself.

I feel more inner peace and happiness and would love to help you feel the same.

My hope is that you take care of your SELF so that you can communicate with honesty and empathy. 

As your relationship with your SELF improves, you will feel more peace, love and joy in all your relationships.

Welcome to Our Facebook Group

Welcome to the Compassionate Mediation® Training Facebook group.

I'm so glad that you're here because I've been working for over 30 years to share the process of Compassionate Mediation® with professionals who could use it in their practice and with individuals and couples who could use it to help their relationships.

Compassionate Mediation is a process to talk about every issue that's conflicting in a relationship and to allow yourself to speak from your highest and best SELF.

And if you're a therapist, mediator, attorney, coach, counselor, or clergy, I want to give you the tools that I've developed that are based on IFS (Internal Family Systems therapy,) based on higher consciousness that I learned at the Chopra Center, based on coming from your highest and best self that SARK talks about, Dr. John Waddell.

And I merged all those together and I put them into a program so that you have the benefit now of all that I have learned over the past 30 years.

So please join me in the Facebook Group.

We'll be having some Facebook Lives. You can join me live. You can ask me questions live or submit them to Linda@LindaKroll.com

I want to share all that I can with you so that you too can help change the face of divorce, and conflict in general, one heart at a time.

I look forward to staying connected.

What Do Your Clients Truly Want?

What Do Your Clients Truly Want?

As a therapist, mediator, and attorney, I'm not always sure why a client comes to my office.

Sometimes, my clients aren't sure, because if they're coming as individuals, they may be unhappy in their relationship, but not sure what to do with it.

If they're coming as a couple, they may both want marriage counseling. One might have one foot out the door.

They both may have parts that are wondering whether to stay or go, but they haven't had the courage or the ability to talk about it.

What I do is provide a safe forum in which all parts are welcome, including the parts that aren't sure if they want to stay or go.

I've developed a process called Compassionate Mediation® that will give you the skills to navigate these conversations, because you'll stay one step ahead of your clients with the information I'll give you to give them.

And while we're talking about the content —whether it has to do with their relationship, their sexual relationship, their financial relationship, how they parent, how they deal with chores, how they communicate now or in the past – whatever the issues are — I give you the tools so that you can give them the content, and then you'll be helping with the process of Compassionate Communication.

You'll be making sure they stay “in Self” for each piece of the puzzle. 

I want to share with you what I've learned from Dick Schwartz and all my colleagues at IFS. and the Chopra Center with all my colleagues there.

I also offer all I've learned as a mediator and a therapist, and all that I experienced as someone who's gotten divorced, and helped a lot of people lead happier marriages together, and also successful separations and divorces.

I would like to share my whole process with you so that you can use it now in your practice.

Please check out my FREE ROADMAP AND VIDEO and then schedule a brief call to learn more.

Continuing Education Credits are available for therapists and coaches.

I have many tools to offer you that you can use with new or current clients – in person or online.

You can learn more HERE and get your FREE Roadmap now.

"I’ve experienced significant improvements in my relationship with my husband and children."

 Mary

"I learned there could be a Compassionate Divorce."

Paul

“We’re building an entirely new marriage.”

Liz

“Linda guided us mindfully through the impact of divorce."

Gina

“I came to Linda seeking mediated divorce documents and came out with nothing but peace and hope."

Jeremy

“I am breaking free from destructive patterns.”

 Carol

“Linda helped me love all ‘Parts’ of my SELF!”

Deb

“With Linda’s caring guidance, I moved forward with peace and strength.”

Ann

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