For over 35 years, as an Internal Family Systems Therapist, Mediator, Attorney, and a Chopra Certified teacher of meditation, yoga and Ayurveda, I have developed a step-by-step process to help individuals and couples in conflict.
My fifth cohort of Compassionate Mediation® Certification is starting soon, and I would love to share it with you so that you can integrate these skills into your practice now.
You can learn how to stay one step ahead of your clients while you share information they need to make life-changing decisions with more consciousness and compassion.
Compassionate Mediation® combines emotional and spiritual healing along with legal and financial information or support.
You can become an expert in the field of conflict resolution as you help your clients to decide whether and how to create a new and better relationship or decide to part. You can become an expert in the field of conflict resolution as you help your clients to decide whether and how to create a new and better relationship or decide to part.
INCREASE YOUR EXPERTISE
They can restructure their current relationships or separate under the best possible conditions for all concerned.
You can use this process with an individual as well as a couple.
Families need not be broken, but can be peacefully and respectfully restructured – and you can be the catalyst for positive transformation.
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You will join a community of other professionals interested in sharing this process and supporting, connecting and referring to each other.
Your network of colleagues and clients will increase effectively.
You’ll acquire a healing and transformational skill set to help you quickly and effectively teach a new way to compassionately communicate and heal wounds from the past.
I provide you with the questions, answers, scripts, templates, handouts, meditations, videos and live practice to feel confident using these skills.
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As you help more individuals and couples – to create new and better relationships or peaceful and respectful separations or divorces – new clients will be seeking you as you fill your practice and have a waiting list of people hoping to work with you.
In working with hundreds of individuals and couples, I often marvel at the mistakes they keep making when they are relating to their partner.
• They think they are being honest, when they are being judgmental. • They believe they are being authentic, when they are unforgiving. • They stay angry and resentful, waiting for their partner to change. • They ruminate on their partner’s past mistakes and project that same behavior in the future. • They only look at the relationship from their own perspective, without truly considering their partner’s feelings, needs and desires.
Do you do any of that in your relationship? If so, you’re probably feeling sad, discontent, or unhappy.
The needs of the heart are Attention, Acceptance, Appreciation, and Affection.
Failure to offer them (when you truly would like more as well), leads to separations, break-ups and divorce.
But you don’t have to make the mistakes you might be making. A “gaffe” is defined as a “stupid or careless mistake, for example when you say or do something that offends or upsets people.”
I am using that acronym as a reminder of what is needed for true healing and transformation to occur.
At some point in a relationship, you have a choice to complain, make things better, or leave.
Try GAFFE before you decide.
Have full/half empty.
As you replace your discontent, disapproval, desire to change – with GRATITUDE, you’ll see an immediate shift in your relationship.
Sam Keen has said, “We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.”
Look through the lens of gratitude for what is instead of judgment for what is lacking.
You are powerless to change anyone else.
When you offer acceptance (instead of judgment or blame), it changes the energy between you, and your partner can feel seen and appreciated and possibly grow more into who you need them to be.
On the other hand, you can accept someone and still choose not to stay with them. If you accept first, it makes the parting kinder and more respectful, instead of angry and retributive.
Accept first, decide what to do later.
Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself.
You don’t need a scorecard to keep you strong enough to leave. Start over, with a clean slate and an open heart.
Then if you are not compatible, you can be free of the pain and resentment and end the relationship with calm, clear, confident choices.
Just because things happened or were missing in the past doesn’t mean that is how it will always be.
Have faith things can change and work out for the highest good for all concerned.
You can stay open to possibilities when you are not perseverating about the past or worrying about the future.
Seek to understand even if you don’t feel understood.
When you are willing to look at the situation from your higher Self, which includes looking at it through your partner’s eyes, you will soften in your approach, and allow miracles to occur You can do this. You can also offer Gratitude, Acceptance, Forgiveness, Faith and Empathy to yourself as well as your partner. Everyone is doing the best they know how to do according to their level of awareness at the time.
Bring the love and light that you are into your current relationship, and watch what happens.
Question for me in my last event: It seems you are combining Western and Eastern knowledge to help your clients, and I was wondering if, like, was that a very conscious choice and how does that make you different from maybe others?
Thank you for asking that question.
I think I was always a spiritual being my whole life kind of like closeted spiritual when it wasn't so cool to name it out loud.
Then I found Dick Schwartz 35 years ago with a way of doing therapy that really spoke to me, that really spoke to being in your highest self, which felt very spiritual to me.
Since then, IFS has included all spirituality in its teachings.
At the same time, I knew that my constant mind, my chattering mind needed a way to calm down.
And I learned how to meditate from Davidji at the Chopra Center.
And then I went out there for five years with Davidji, Deepak Chopra, David Simon, Clarie Diab, and I learned how to teach meditation.
I believe that if you truly want to learn something, learn how to teach it.
So I became a meditation teacher, then I became a yoga teacher,
then I became an Ayurveda teacher.
I think I'm one of 500 or 600 people in the world that actually has that
triumvirate of trainings.
The Chopra Center had just asked me this month to be their feature teacher of the month, 20 years after I took their training, which is a big honor.
When I was at the Chopra Center, I realized the same conversation was being had with different words.
When we talked about “higher consciousness,” it was the same as talking about SELF energy – which is calm, clear and compassionate.
There's seven layers of consciousness – sleeping, dreaming, waking, transcendent, cosmic, divine, and unity.
That unity consciousness is that we're all one and we all have a higher self.
And we as practitioners can trust that we can stay in our higher self and motivate our clients to access that higher self that they already have.
There's nothing missing, there's nothing wrong with them. They
just need to unburden the pain from the past, let go of the limiting beliefs
that they've been taught all their lives, and relate from their hearts.
I realized when I was doing both IFS and meditation trainings, I realized some people can't meditate because as soon as they stop being busy, their minds start acting up: their judgments, their to-do lists, the pain from their past.
I think it's a great combination to be able to direct access Self through meditation, yoga,journaling, walking – whatever lights you up – access it directly.
And at the same time, be mindful of the Parts of you that need some healing, that need to be released from the burdens from the past to be, in touch with what you're telling yourself – and not believing every thought you think or every thought you were taught to believe by your parents.
And to really let go of that energy because I do energy work for healing.
It's all included in what I call Compassionate Mediation® Certification and my Compassionate Mediation® Program.
I like to say to people, I blend the emotional and spiritual healing along with legal and financial information and support.
As a final thought, I hope you have a little bit more information about conscious conflict resolution and how to cultivate Self energy.
Here's how to begin:
Take three belly breaths, inhale, abdomen out, exhale belly button back to your spine.
One more time. Inhale all the way down to your abdomen. Exhale belly button back to your spine.
Last time. Inhale, abdomen out, exhale belly button back to your spine.
You have just become more conscious. You have just connected with more self-energy and I hope you can take that with you into your day and beyond.
For more information, go to www.LindaKroll.com/Roadmap
Over six hours of videos offering information, inspiration, and guidance.
Written Inspiration Guides to help you focus on your own needs and desires.
Bonus recordings to continue the process
Access to the program's exclusive Facebook group to connect with others in the group for more sharing and support, and also to connect with me there
Four weekly Live question and answer calls with me to answer your questions and offer ongoing guidance and support.
Each step has an Inspiration Guide to download with written material with everything that's in the videos.
If you have journal questions, if you want to take notes of where you are, if you're trying to remember everything that's in the video, it's all written out for you and you have all of that at your fingertips.
What I've done as a therapist, mediator, attorney, and spiritual counselor is to funnel all of my education and personal experience into my Compassionate Mediation program.
The amount of hours you're going to spend with me in the videos and live Question and Answer Calls would cost you about $6,000 or more if you paid my hourly fees.
But it's nowhere near that.
A few benefits of the program
Your children will thrive and they'll get back to living their lives instead of taking care of you. Your children are noticing what's happening. Even if you're not fighting, they notice the energy between the two of you.
As you become less reactive, it will allow your partner to move towards you again, to discuss the future direction of your relationship. whatever choice you finally make for yourself.
Financial decisions will be addressed because you won't be speaking from terror or anger or sadness, and you'll feel more confident, courageous, and safe to talk about everything that you want and everything that you're looking forward to in your future.
Take the Program Alone or with your Partner.
You can participate in the Compassionate Mediation Program alone or with your partner
It really does heal relationships.
Dick Schwartz, the Founder of Internal Family Systems Therapy (IFS) has said, “
Compassionate Mediation allows you to reboot, renew, re-energize. gives you the skills that you may not have or you may not know how to practice.
No matter how old you are or what relationship problems you have right now, those can be healed with Compassionate Mediation.
If you decide that with a compassionate relationship, it's still time to part ways, you can restructure your family instead of breaking it –whatever form it takes.
I've worked with many people who improve their relationships, create a healthy separation or share a compassionate divorce.
In a Compassionate Divorce, former partners can learn how to stay friends. I have helped couples who have post-divorce entertained together as they maintain a healthy co-parenting relationship.
I've had several couples who have been business partners, gotten divorced and still had successful partnerships in business.
Others have traveled to their college-aged students weekends together and some of some have even traveled together.
So you can have a Compassionate Divorce™.
Your Better than No-Risk Guarantee.
To offer you peace of mind is because I'm so invested in you getting the
support you need that I'm offering a better than no risk money back
If after the orientation or first module, you don't feel that this program is for you, you get your money back and you get to keep the bonus gift.
I'm offering you the entire Love Summit, which I recorded a few years ago with 16 major love and relationship experts.
And in this bonus are the audios, the transcripts, and the free gifts from each of the experts, which you can own forever.
So you can expand your consciousness, have a better relationship, and enhance the relationships, not just with your partner, but in all areas of your life.
You get to keep the bonus for registering.
Are you wondering; What if I’m too busy?
I know that you don't need any more to-dos in your life, and I don't want to give you any more to-dos, but this online program shouldn't feel like another pressing detail in your overcrowded life.
I'd like you to consider that being busy is often one of the symptoms of avoidance, and it keeps you from taking action and moving forward.
You're constantly running in the same circles. But by giving yourself the time to shift this energy and take this program, you'll begin to feel more calm and peaceful.
You'll be learning everything you need to bring more balance and happiness to your life.
You can listen to the recordings, whanever you want.
It's like having a mediator, therapist, attorney, counselor in yourpocket whenever you want to listen.
You can multitask and get coached along the way.
So just consider if you're too busy, it might be just an excuse and you can go and sign up now.
Are you wondering, “What if I can’t afford it?”
I hope you are beginning to realize that it might be more expensive in the long run, not to take the program.
Consider that if you keep doing what you're doing, how much it could cost you if you don't get the support you need.
Attorneys and retainers and legal fees for each of you can still leave you feeling unclear and overwhelmed
I've known clients who have each paid $5,000 just for the retainers for the attorneys, and some have paid up to $250,000 when it's got litigious over parenting and child support and custody.
That doesn't have to happen.
Court costs over months and years of that litigation often resolve nothing and just create more acrimony.
If you don't get more support, you might need more therapy for yourself, your partner or your children, while you still stay stuck and indecisive.
And sometimes we lose wages due to stress.
You lose sleep and the ability to focus or you get sick and have medical bills related to illness from feeling alone, unsupported and stressed.
You might be paying fees for financial planners, business
evaluators, and other experts and still continue to feel unclear about what to do.
Can you really afford not to take this program?
You can keep feeling walled, defensive, hurt, reactive.
Your health might stay challenged due to the strain of the unhappy relationship or an emotional turmoil.
Your work might suffer because you can't be fully present when your mind is constantly churning or your heart hurts, you're not bringing your best self to your relationship.
With this small investment in yourself, you will receive the support and guidance so that you can get clear on what your future will be.
And then you can begin to take positive, inspired action in that direction.
You can go to the link below and check it out because remember, they've
got the peace of mind guarantee and the free bonus.
Are you thinking “What if I continue to do this on my own?
You can. You can keep on doing what you're doing.
Sometimes keeping on with what you've been doing isn't really working as well as it could be for you.
You might be feeling sad or hurt or scared or staying very busy and not taking the time to process.
You might be overeating, not sleeping, fighting, crying, depressed or angry.
You might be having an emotional or physical affair.
Know that you deserve to explore your options and create a healthy and safe environment.
You deserve to allow yourself to feel condent opening your heart again and not keeping the walls up.
You deserve to understand your legal options, whatever you choose to do – whether you want to create a new relationship together or live separately.
And you deserve to have a team of support around you so that
you'll never feel all alone on an island of pain again.
As you become more clear and condent, you will feel more balanced and more peaceful, and you deserve that sense of inner balance.
Limited Time Offer
The Compassionate Mediation Program is being offered for a limited time at this price.
The price will be going up and today you’ll receive the the better than no risk guarantee for your money back if it doesn't work for you. You get to keep the bonus of the Love Summit.
I'd love to work with you to change not only the face of divorce and also the face of conflict, one heart at a time
It starts with Compassionate mediation.
Please join me in the Compassionate Mediation Program. Go to CompassionateMediationroPgram.com.
Sign up – you have a money back guarantee and a bonus – and you can get access to the program immediately.
Start listening to the videos, look over all the inspiration guides,
and then begin to work with me.
You can create the relationship that you truly desire.
Here’s What Some of My Other Clients Have Said:
You can create a whole new relationship.
Even though your partner may be unwilling to participate in the process,
you can learn a new way to approach old patterns.
You can reframe your story with compassion for yourself and for your significant relationships, even the most difficult and hurtful.
Whether your partner decides to be part of this process or not,
you can learn the skills that you need to create a new and better relationship and you can build an entirely new marriage.
One couple came to me and, as she said, they were fighting and she was afraid to leave because of her young children and limited finances. The idea of leaving felt almost as bad as staying.
She learned how to bring her best SELF to their relationship. As she explained, “SELF is the essence or core of who each of us is
without the hurts of our past, the defensive strategies we've developed to
protect ourselves, our fears, worries, etcetera.
All that stuff covers up our shining, beautiful, peaceful SELF.
After a few short months, not only did this couple stop thinking about ending their marriage, but they had created a whole new beginning and a whole new relationship together.
You can also learn how separate respectfully or create a compassionate divorce.
You can come from your highest self.
One client traveled with his former wife and his daughter with friendship and harmony.
Learning how to be your best SELF is part of what this process. Then you bring your best self to all your relationships and you can divorce and work together.
I told you about the couples that were in business together and
they did dissolve their marriage and to continue to work successfully for
years. They still are.
They discussed all their psychological, financial, and legal issues and crafted the divorce decree to suit their needs.
They focused on what was really important, their three-year-old child.
You can divorce compassionately and you can improve your communication no matter what your partner does.
One of my clients was happy and hopeful.
She fought with her husband every time they talked about the computer. But once she realized that she was looking at him as if she was a
little girl when her grandmother yelled at her –and that she didn't have to do
That – she could speak for the parts of her that were hurt, sad, scared and
She made changes in relating to here husband.
She understood more what was happening to her in conflict and
she could use that understanding to create a happier relationship.
She told me afterwards that she was astonished by how much her husband
had changed, but he hadn't taken the program at all.
What changed was how she related to her husband and how she related to all parts of herself.
You can reinvent your story.
Youu can work up the courage to ask for something to change, ask for what you want and need.
When you do that, your mind and world open up and you realize that you can be the architect of your own life and not the victim in it.
And it's a good starting point to get unstuck.
You get momentum, hope, tools and support. You get information and inspiration with very real, useful wisdom, as one of my clients
You can listen to the videos and read the guides over and over
again, and you can see it in different ways when you're at different points.
My Settlement Prayer Changed the course of her divorce.
One client said that the program single-handedly changed the course of her divorce.
She said, “I was able to show my husband that although our marriage was ending, we did not have to destroy everything. We would always be a family. We would just look different.”
She helped him show up as their best selves, not only for their children, but for each other. They would always be a family, but we would now look and operate differently.
She was able to end her marriage with dignity and grace.
I’d love to work with you.
I’d love to work with you to change not only the face of divorce, but the face of conflict, one heart at a time, and it starts with Compassionate Mediation.
Please join me in the Compassionate Mediation Program.
Go to CompassionateMediationProgram.com. And sign up.
You have a money back guarantee and a bonus, and you can get access to the program immediately.
Start listening to the videos, look over all the inspiration guides, and then
begin to work with me and create the relationship that you truly desire and
As a therapist, mediator and attorney, I see many unhappy individuals and couples longing for the “happily ever after” they had planned. The ones in the most pain are not sure if they want to stay or go.
To many of my clients, the possibility of experiencing a truly happy marriage seems as remote and impossible as sighting that “imaginary creature represented as a white horse with a long horn growing from its forehead.”
A happy marriage is not a mythical or magical experience. It’s the end result of many acts of two people who truly CARE about each other.
You can appreciate that despite your best efforts, from time-to-time you’re going to trigger each other. Or hurt each other. Or scare, sadden or disappoint the other.
The difference between reality and mythology is that the happy marriage doesn’t miraculously appear. In the real world, you can create a happy marriage by learning a few Compassionate Communication skills — including empathy and forgiveness — and applying them liberally and often to your relationship.
What I have learned over the years is that the difference between a happy and an unhappy marriage is that in the HAPPY one, each partner truly CARES.
C – Compassion for themselves and their partner. Compassion is not codependency. It’s a healthy perspective on your own needs as well as your partner’s. It’s knowing the 5 steps to receive what you truly want and need and practicing the miracle of empathy.
A – Acceptance of all the idiosyncrasies that make your partner unique. Acceptance is the ability to love someone for who they are, and not who you need them to be. It is also accepting the humanity and divinity of both of you, knowing we are spiritual beings having a human experience. And marriage can trigger all our human parts.
R – Respect for each other’s individuality. Respect is the ability to see the good traits of your partner and honor those. No one is perfect. As Sam Keen said, ” We come to love not by finding a perfect person but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.”
E – Empathy for your feelings, desires and needs. Empathy means you listen, understand, and truly care what your partner feels, and they learn to do the same for you. You drop the walls you've built to protect yourself and the filters through which you have judged each other and truly relate from your heart.
S – Self love that allows each of you to practice healthy self-care. True self-love is the ability to take exquisite care of yourself, no matter the circumstances. You give yourself the attention, affection, appreciation and acceptance you need. Then you share all that love with your partner.
If you're unclear where your relationship is breaking down in this CARES model, I can help.
Bottom line: Unicorns don’t exist, but happy marriages do. You can have one — if you try.
And if you do your best, and CARE as much as possible and it's still not meeting your needs, you can have a Compassionate Divorce®, which isn't a Unicorn either.
Linda Kroll is a therapist, mediator, attorney, Chopra Certified Master Teacher, and author of the bestselling Compassionate Mediation® for Relationships at a Crossroad: How to Add Passion to Your Marriage or Compassion to Your Divorce.