This is for you if you’d like to heal and transform your relationship.
Compassionate Mediation® is a transformational and healing process of conflict resolution that will help you add passion to your marriage or compassion to your divorce. https://lindakroll.com/compassionate-m…
Compassionate Mediation is for you.
Create the Relationship You Desire and Deserve
No two relationships are alike.
If you take a moment to tell me about yours,
I can offer you solutions to help you
make the changes you need now.
Compassionate Mediation® can help you if you are not sure about what you want to do about your relationship If you’re like many of my clients, you’re feeling: ⎪ stuck ⎪ confused ⎪ anxious ⎪ guilty ⎪ hopeful that you can change your relationship and add more passion ⎪ or scared that it may lead to a separation or divorce.
I’m Linda Kroll. I’m a therapist, mediator, attorney, Chopra-certified master teacher of meditation, yoga, perfect health. As of last year, I’m the author of Compassionate Mediation: How to Add Passion to Your Marriage or Compassion to Your Divorce.
Island of Pain
If you’re on your own island of pain, feeling alone and lost and confused and scared, I want to help you find the bridge to wherever you’re supposed to go next. It doesn’t mean you have to take any steps. It just means you get the information you need so that when you’re ready to take a step you know that you have the information that will give you the best guidance.
My hope for you.
My intention is that you come out feeling more hopeful and see a possibility that you don’t see right now. I invite you to go to my website at Lindakroll.com and find the information that you need to get a free chapter of the book, to order the book, or just to learn more of the free gifts and resources that I have there.
As a therapist, mediator, attorney, and Chopra Certified Master teacher of Meditation, Yoga and Ayurveda, I’m offering a series of videos to introduce Compassionate Mediation® as a evolutionary and healing process of conflict resolution.
You can heal and transform your relationship from your highest and best SELF for the benefit of all concerned.
You Can Heal and Transform
Your Relationship
with Your Former Spouse.
Even though your divorce is over, you may have lingering unresolved issues with your “ex.” Don’t give up hope on improving your relationship. It’s never too late! Get your FREE CHAPTER and apply the information in it to help heal and transform your “post-divorce” relationship
You can learn how to communication with compassion — from your highest and best SELF. When there is a peaceful and respectful dialogue, it’s safe to put your walls down. You remove the filters through which you judged your partner. You no longer see him/her with blame or judgment or fear, and you realize there are no triggers to threaten your security with each other.
When there’s partnership. you feel like a team and fun begins to return to your connection. When you’re safely connected and feeling respected and enjoying each other, the passion you initially experienced begins to reappear. It often intensifies—because of the deeper level of your connection. You remember what you used to enjoy together and begin doing more of it again.
Sexual intimacy is not about technique. A deeper connection on all levels comes from forgiveness, compassion, and peace. The more you learn how to be understanding, empathetic, and affectionate, the more passion there will be.
Make plans together for new experiences that are interesting, exciting, enjoyable. You can take turns arranging date nights, choosing the activities and calling a sitter if you have children. Some of my clients have little activity jars where they just think of something to do, put it in the jar, and take out an idea from time to time so that there’s no pressure to pick a plan and they can mutually create more fun.
Help your partner feel like a priority to you. Focus on making him or her happy—as you ask for and receive what you want and need. Create new habits of touch, connection, laughter, and fun. You will feel appreciated, accepted, admired, adored, and then you reciprocate in kind. Or first offer that appreciation, acceptance, admiration, and loving attention yourself, and see what happens.
Passion can permeate your whole relationship in and out of the bedroom because intimacy is not just intercourse, it’s holding hands, it’s cuddling, it’s hugging, it’s that kiss hello and goodbye. You begin to offer love in the currency of your partner, not giving to meet your needs but to meet theirs. They do the same for you.
In her new book, Turn Your Mate into Your Soulmate, Arielle Ford reminds us of the meaning of love. “Love is both a choice and a behavior…Love is a connection. Love is a feeling…Love is about being willing to forgive. Love is God. Love is who we are. Love is why we are here. To put it simply, love is all there is.”
SARK sees herself as “a full cup of love sharing her overflow with the world.” Isn’t that wonderful?
Fill your cup first. Fill your life with passion, vibrancy and joy. It can be done. You can do it. All it takes is love, starting with loving yourself. Then let your overflow of love bring peace, partnership, and passion to your relationship, to your family, and to the world. To learn more, please click here.
Countless couples play out their emotional dramas without regard to the collateral damage they inflict on their innocent and loving children. Two people who once cared enough to promise to love and cherish “until death do them part” can also learn to fear and despise each other after years of pain and unmet needs.
These hurting individuals need compassion for the profound sadness underneath the rage. No matter how far apart a man and wife can become emotionally and physically, their children are caught in the middle and continue to feel the strife.
Families do not have to be “broken”, but can be peacefully and respectfully re-structured.
Whether you are stuck in an emotionally abusive situation, considering a divorce, in the middle of one, or long past the date of dissolution, if you are still angry and/or anxious in the company of your (ex)spouse, there is healing that can be done.
It starts with compassion – for yourself at first, and then eventually for your (former) partner. No matter what the reasons are that cause a union to terminate, there is pain and sadness and fear on both sides. Learning how to acknowledge those feelings, and to be met with empathy and understanding, is a gift you give your whole family, beginning with yourself.
Your children will only have one biological mother and father, no matter how many other partners are introduced into their lives. Children of all ages seek on some level to have a “happy family”. If you can’t find a way to live with the other parent, you can find a way to connect with civility, courtesy, and even kindness. Healing can happen, and it starts with you.
“Why should I have to do any more work? I was always the only one who cared enough to try harder!”
The work you do is ultimately for your own personal growth. With or without your (former) partner present, you can explore the origins of your own pain and anger, and learn how to relay your needs in words that don’t sound blaming or judgmental. You can learn how to calmly talk about your sadness and your fears, even if the end result is a decision to leave your marriage.
And if your divorce has already been finalized, you can find a way to reframe your experience so that it becomes a catalyst for forgiveness and a healthy letting go of pain. As you heal, your children benefit from your inner peace. And then you are truly free to go on with your own life, unburdened from the wounds of your past.
Divorce is the death of a dream.
None of us ever plans to get divorced, and when it happens, the grieving must be done. Calcifying our loss with indifference, resentments, or cut-offs only exacerbates the heartache our children bear. Learning how to relate to the other parent with dignity and respect is a priceless gift of love to your child. Divorce itself does not cause the damage. It is the parental conflict that leaves the lifelong wounds.
Losing My Marriage, Finding My Self
Victim or empowered? The choice is yours. You can exit a marriage with grace, no matter how long it’s been since you first said “I do”. And it is never too late to begin. The first step you take is the path to your authentic Self, a state of calm, clarity, compassion, creativity, courage, and confidence.
Counseling and/or Mediation
Alone or together, you can make decisions that will affect the rest of your life. Whether you begin with counseling and eventually end with mediation, you and your spouse can calmly discuss all issues in a compassionate way to lead to a peaceful and respectful resolution.
Post-divorce, healing can still be accomplished, with or without your former partner present. How did he/she remind you of your mother/father? What issues did you bring to the relationship? What can you learn to help you form more positive relationships in the future?
The Miracle of Empathy
Understanding and forgiving yourself and each other, and dealing with any feelings in the way of forgiveness, charts your course towards emotional liberation. As unbelievable as it may seem to you now, your future can be filled with peace and joy, and your children can have the benefit of parents who can both be present at important times in their lives. (If you don’t think it matters to your children any longer, just ask them.)
You owe it to your “re-structured family”, and to yourself, to be open to the possibility of a healthier relationship. It only takes one to start the process. You will be amazed at the difference it will make in all of your lives.
