I hope that you and your family are doing well in this challenging time in our lives.
Are you finding that this quarantine is bringing out your best SELF— or is it creating difficulties in how you are communicating with the people you love?
Do you sometimes feel stuck, wishing that you had some alternatives for change?
My individual and couples clients have felt these struggles, and I have helped them to heal and transform their relationships.
I offer you the same support and guidance that I have provided thousands of clients over the last 30 years as a therapist, mediator, attorney and author.
You took my Relationship Assessment a while ago, and it helped you take a look at your relationship and where it was at the time.
Whatever you decided about your relationship when you took the Assessment, I want to help you create the relationship you desire and deserve.
Whether you were:
happy enough and wishing your relationship could improve
In the Compassionate Mediation Program, you’re going to get six hours of videos of all the information, counseling, and advice that I have shared with my clients.
They often pay me thousands of dollars over several sessions, but that’s not what you need to do!
I’m offering this program at a VERY DISCOUNTED PRICE so that you can take advantage of it now.
And as soon as you sign up, you have access to all of the videos, all of the written materials, all of the assessments and templates and meditations available now.
You can watch them in a weekend. You can watch them in a day. You can take your time and watch them over and over again.
With each video and each moment of my support, you’re going to find a way to make your relationship better. You’re going to find a way to compassionately communicate,
Connect to your highest and best self.
Let go of your limiting beliefs and judgments about yourself and your partner.
Unburden pain from the past and
Relate from your heart.
As you do that, you’re going to create a compassionate relationship, no matter what form it’s going to take in the future.
And instead of thinking you’re stuck, or you only have to stay or go, you’re going to explore ALL your options for change.
And you’re going to begin to make those changes.
It’s going to help you understand your rights and finances to create a budget, to renegotiate roles and responsibilities.
And once you learn all that, whether your partner takes part in this program or not, you’re going to have the skills to create a better relationship.
It’s a very discounted price, so that you can take advantage and listen to the six hours.
Take as long as you want to learn all that you can.
BONUS GIFT and GUARANTEE
There’s also a bonus gift for signing up. . And there’s a money back guarantee. Because if, after the orientation in the completion of the first module, you decide this isn’t for you, you get your money back, but you also get to keep the bonus of the Love Summit.
The Love Summit has 16 tapes, transcripts of experts offering support, guidance, humor, wisdom on how to create better relationships.
So please check it out now, and I look forward to seeing you in the program.
Looking forward to connecting with you again soon.
All my best, P.S. For just $297, you can get started now! The cost of the program is going to go back up to $997, but I wanted to make it easy for you to say yes to yourself and your relationship today! Please check it out HERE.
I invite you to join with me and share the free gifts and the two programs that I’m offering now.
With all that’s going on in the world — with all the difficulties in communication and all the strained and stressed relationships — I have two programs to be of help.
The first one is called the Compassionate Mediation® Program.
It’s for individuals and couples to either add passion to their marriage or compassion to their divorce. I’d love for you to help me spread the word about that.
If you’re interested, I give you a FREE Relationship Assessment that you can tell people about.
And then if anyone takes the Relationship Assessment and later takes my course on Compassionate Mediation Program, you’ll get 30% of the cost of the course as my way of saying thank you.
The Compassionate Mediation Program, based on my book, is for individuals and couples who could use the help now.
It’s a six hour program. It’s evergreen which means it’s always available.
And if you’re interested, I’ll send you copy that you can use to put on social media, to send out in an email, with a link with your name. And if someone that you send it to eventually buys the program, I’d love to thank you with a percentage of what the program costs.
So that’s the Compassionate Mediation Program for individuals and couples.
The other program I’d love for you to share for me is my Compassionate Mediation® Training.
It is called Compassionate Mediation Tools For Your Practice Now. I send you a FREE ROADMAP and VIDEO that you can offer to a professional — a therapist, mediator, attorney, coach, clergy, counselor — someone who works with individuals and couples who could use this skill set.
And after they look at the free road map and the video, if they take my training, Compassionate Mediation Tools For Your Practice Now, you get 30% of that course.
And then eventually this fall, I’m going to be having the certification for professionals.
What I’m asking for now is for you to find out more about the relationship assessment that leads to the Compassionate Mediation Program and about the road map and video that lead to the Compassionate Mediation Training.
It’s my fervent hope that we can reach as many people as possible with a message of SELF- leadership. And what I mean by self leadership — considering Dick Schwartz’ work with Internal Family Systems — is when we come from our highest SELF, we are calm, clear, compassionate, courageous, confident, connected, caring. We need more SELF presence right now.
I want to help the individuals and couples to create the relationships they desire and deserve.
And I want to help the professionals reach as many people as possible with this process so that together, we can change the face of divorce and conflict in general, one heart at a time.
Communication can be difficult in the best of times, but no one has had a roadmap on how best to help clients in conflict.
Couples and families can use all the assistance we can give them and acquiring these “unique tools” for your therapeutic toolkit can help them – and you.
I am excited to share a transformational (IFS-based) training for relationship healing – Compassionate Mediation® – offering you techniques and materials you can use either in-person or online.
In his review of her book, Dick Schwartz said, “This is relationship healing at its best… Linda Kroll is a master at lifting couples out of their narrow perspectives…”
Compassionate Mediation® helps any relationship that needs healing – even if only one member of a couple learns these skills.
You will gain expertise to help people heal themselves and their relationships.
Warmly,
ABOUT LINDA KROLL, LCPC, JD
Linda Kroll, an IFS therapist, mediator, attorney, and Chopra-Certified teacher of meditation, yoga, and Ayurveda has created a program that covers emotional and spiritual healing along with financial and legal information and support.
Linda believes, “Families need not be broken, but can be peacefully and respectfully restructured.”
Now, more than ever – Linda’s process of SELF-led compassionate communication will help resolve conflict, heal old wounds, and foster relationship transformation.
Linda is the author of an award-winning book Compassionate Mediation® for Relationships at a Crossroads: How to Add Passion to Your Marriage or Compassion to Your Divorce and the Kindle book, “Compassionate Divorce™: Changing the Face of Divorce, One Heart at a Time. She is the Founder of the online Compassionate Communication Academy, where her six-hour online video series – Compassionate Mediation® Program – is available to help couples and individuals around the world.
Other IFS therapists who have participated in Linda’s trainings have said:
“Wow!! I love watching a therapist so competent in couples work! I will begin and merge concepts with my practice – especially with couples on the brink.”
“Thanks so much. This gives me a roadmap and framework for helping couples navigate their decision making in a way that honors and empowers both parties.
(Optional Note) I do not administer this course. I am an affiliate and support many of the products created. This means, if you choose to make a purchase, I will make a small commission.
You took the Relationship Assessment a while ago, and it helped you take a look at your relationship and where it is right now.
And that may have even been before all of the world was turned upside down.
I want to offer you a program to make your relationship better.
Whatever you decided when you were looking at how much self-leadership you had and what you understood about your finances and how confident you are in your ability to communicate —wherever you were when you first took the Relationship Assessment, I want to help you create the relationship you desire and deserve.
In the Compassionate Mediation Program, you’re going to get six hours of what I tell people individually. And often they pay me thousands of dollars for that, but I‘m offering this program at a very discounted price, so that you can take advantage of it now.
And as soon as you sign up, you have access to all of the videos, all of the written materials, all of the assessments and templates and meditations available now.
You can watch them in a weekend. You can watch them in a day. You can take your time and watch them over and over again.
But with each video and each moment of my support, you’re going to find a way to make your relationship better. You’re going to find a way to compassionately communicate,
Connect to your highest and best self.
Let go of your limiting beliefs and judgments about yourself and your partner.
Unburden pain from the past and
Relate from your heart.
As you do that, you’re going to create a compassionate relationship, no matter what form it’s going to take in the future.
And instead of thinking you’re stuck, or you only have to stay or go, or make up those two choices, you’re going to explore all your options for change.
And you’re going to begin to make those changes.
It’s going to help you understand your rights and finances to create a budget, to renegotiate roles and responsibilities.
And once you learn all that, whether your partner takes part in this program or not, once you learn all that, you’re going to have the skills to create a better relationship.
So check it out now. CompassionateMediationProgram.com
I hope to see you in there. It’s a very discounted price, so that you can take advantage and listen to the six hours. Take as long as you want.
BONUS GIFT and GUARANTEE
There’s also a bonus gift for signing up. But in the meantime… And there’s a money back guarantee. Because if, after the orientation in the first module, you figure out this isn’t for you, you get your money back, but you also get to keep the bonus of the Love Summit.
The Love Summit has 16 tapes, transcripts of experts offering support, guidance, humor, wisdom on how to create better relationships.
So please check it out now, and I look forward to seeing you in the program. Bye for now.
As a therapist, coach, mediator, attorney, counselor or clergy, we are called upon to help individuals and couples, affected by the quarantine, who could use new skills to resolve conflict. And that is what we do with Compassionate Mediation. We help each party understand the suffering of the other – so that mutual empathy can heal and transform the relationship.
Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh a global spiritual leader offering advice on helping people resolve conflict. Here is what he said:
“To reconcile conflicting parties, we must have the ability to understand the suffering of both sides.
If we take sides, it is impossible to do the work of reconciliation. And humans want to take sides. That is why the situation gets worse and worse.
Are there people who are still available to both sides? They need not do much.
They need only do one thing, go to one side and tell all about the suffering endured by the other side, and go to the other side and tell all about the suffering endured by this side.
That is our chance for peace. That can change the situation.”
And that is what we do with Compassionate Mediation.
We give each party — or if you’re working with an individual, give the individual — a chance to come from their highest SELF, let go of their limiting beliefs, unburden pain from the past, and relate from their heart.
And then when they relate from their heart, they can talk about their feelings that they’ve exiled — the hurt, the sadness, the fear — and their partner can listen to that.Their partner can’t listen to the judgments, the “you” messages — “You always do this…. You never do that…“
Unfortunately, and especially now with all the quarantine, a lot of people are getting into some very bad habits of communicating. Maybe they’re fighting more.Maybe they’re distancing more. Maybe they’re doing the dance of fighting and distancing.
Now more than ever, the skill of Compassionate Mediation can be something that you can use with your current clients or future clients to teach them a new way to communicate. Compassionate Mediation starts with compassionate communication.
How Does Compassionate Mediation Training differ from other trainings?
The Compassionate Mediation Tools course is my introductory course. It’s four and a half hours, and it’s something that I wanted to offer so that you get a general feel for the kinds of tools that I teach in the process.
Starting this fall, I’m going to have a certification process. And that certification process is going to take you from the very beginning of working with an individual or couple to all of the different tributaries that they can go into — creating a new marriage, deciding on a separation, deciding if they want to get divorced — and giving you the scripts that I used to have all those dialogues.
For instance, in the Compassionate Mediation Tools, in lesson one and lesson two, you actually get the script I use to introduce IFS (Internal Family Systems therapy) Self and Parts. You get the script I use to talk about empathy and how I share that with people.
In the third session, we talk about the legal and financial.
I know that’s just the tip of the iceberg. There’s so much more to talk about. And what I do in this certification process is I give you the information you need to stay one step ahead of your clients, or many steps ahead of your clients.
But you don’t need to know the law. You don’t need to be a financial planner.
You will have a basic understanding of important information that you can bring up and share with your clients whenever they bring up a subject – about money, parenting, the decisions to be made individually and together.
You’re trained in therapy or coaching or helping them, what you’re going to be able to do is talk about the content of any issue relevant to their future.
You can offer information about CONTENT and then PROCESS FEELINGS.
If you’re talking about Property Division or Child Support or Maintenance – you’ll have the tools and skill set to feel confident offering basic information.
What you need to do is talk about the feelings that come up around these subjects.
And far too often we’ll be counseling someone and they’ll decide they’re thinking of a divorce, and they want to go to a mediator or they want to hire an attorney. I mention to anyone thinking of the divorce that mediation is always the best way to go, whether it’s Compassionate Mediation or any other mediation, because it gives them a chance to speak with each other.
Compassionate Mediation is an opportunity for healing and a new and better relationship together.
In Compassionate Mediation, we’re teaching our clients a way to be more SELF-led, to compassionately communicate, to learn how to empathize, and then to talk about all the different options they have.
Another thing we’re doing in Compassionate Mediation is we’re taking them off the ledge.
And if you know what I mean, it’s when an individual or a couple comes into your office and they think they have to act now. They think they have to jump. They’ve reached the end of their rope. They’re so tired of the same old, same old that they need to make a decision and they need to make it fast. (Deep breath here.)
The important thing is not what they decide, but are they deciding from their highest and best self?
If your clients are not “in SELF”, they are just reacting. They’re reacting to their own parts. They’re reacting to their partner’s parts.
Especially now with COVID, there might be a lot of people who are fighting all the time.
So when Thich Nhat Hanh is talking, he wants us to help the people not get stuck in what their two extreme angry parts may be saying to each other.
We begin to recognize that both members of the couple are trying to cope as best they can — to be cool or to work too hard or do whatever they can to manage their feelings.
But inside there is an inner child in each of them who is scared, who is sad, who is hurt, who is angry — and helping them learn how to speak for those parts is what we do.
Compassionate Mediation is a space to talk about EVERYTHING.
If either one or both parties has thought about a separation or divorce — which often happens in a relationship and often happens in marriage counseling — it is sometimes difficult to discuss.
In marriage counseling, many people don’t bring it the parts that have considered leaving because they think that if they’re in marriage counseling, all they’re there to do is to make the marriage better.
And unfortunately, one or both of them may have already be considering what would it be like to separate? What would it be like to find somebody new? What would it be like to get out of this union?
But because they’re exiling that part of themselves, they’re only showing up with a part that’s trying to be invested in counseling, but they’re not fully invested in counseling because they’re not talking about the part that’s thought about leaving.
So what we do in Compassionate Mediation is we make it safe for all parts to come in, the parts that are scared, the parts that are worried, the parts that are angry, the parts that feel betrayed, and the parts that think, I might want to end this.
What would that look like? And that’s why in one of the modules, I talk about how you talk to the initiator and how you talk to the non-initiator.
Talking with the One who wants to STAY and the One who may want to LEAVE.
The initiator is the party in the couple, the one member of the couple, that really would like to separate or divorce. And I tell that person that if they don’t process some of the feelings that led to their desire to leave, their partner is not going to be part of this process.
Their partner is going to pull out. So then they’d be left with having to hire an attorney, file for divorce, their partner would have to file a response a year or two later, thousands of dollars later, maybe they’ll get divorced. So I tell the initiator, take the time to learn how to communicate, to process the feelings that got you here.
And I tell the non-initiator, the person that doesn’t want to think about a divorce, doesn’t want to think about a separation, is totally obsessed with staying together, that if they don’t open their mind to consider the possibility of leaving, the partner that wants to separate or divorce isn’t going to stay in this process, because it’s going to feel too much like marriage counseling.
So they have to meet in the middle where the person who wants out talks about feelings, the person that wants to stay talks about what would it look like if I left, and you hold the space for that whole conversation.
You will help clients talk about everything – money and all subjects.
And whatever topic they bring up, if they bring up money and how money is divided between the two of them, that’s a subject that could go on for weeks or months.
Because when you talk about money, you have to talk about all the parts that are triggered about that conversation. You can talk about the legacy burdens that each of them brought into the relationship, about the roles and responsibilities. You can talk about their limiting beliefs or the way they’ve managed or the parts they’ve exiled.
And at the same time, you will know enough to give them feedback about how to talk about money.
You can acquire the tools to help your clients talk about all their issues and resolve them from their best SELF for the highest good for all concerned.
You can also increase you income, expertise, and impact as you offer this new paradigm of conflict resolution and relationship healing.
Linda Kroll, an IFS therapist, mediator, attorney, and Chopra-Certified teacher of meditation, yoga, and Ayurveda has created a program that covers emotional and spiritual healing along with financial and legal information and support.
