I want to share my process of Compassionate Mediation® to help you or your clients who are having conflict in their relationships.
I am offering a free webinar, a quiz, a program and a professional training – all beginning this month.
Here is a link to my latest newsletter that covers all the details.
Compassionate Mediation® is an IFS-based model for conflict resolution that is based on my book Compassionate Mediation® for Relationships at a Crossroad: How to Add Passion to Your Marriage or Compassion to Your Divorce.
Richard Schwartz, PhD, Founder of Internal Family Systems (IFS) said, “Divorce brings out the worst in us and often leaves lasting scars… Linda Kroll is a master at lifting couples out of their narrow protective perspectives. They then learn the larger lessons from their relationships and proceed based on the best interests of all involved… This is relationship healing at its best.”
Please contact me if you have any questions. I would love to share this transformational process with you so that you can also deliver it to your clients.
Where you are on track toward enjoying the relationship that meets your needs.
What areas you need to focus on to create a future of more peace, love and joy – no matter the form your relationship will take.
Each section represents an important element for creating the relationship you desire and deserve.
Then, check your inbox for your results right away!
The first step towards a better relationship is to be aware of the one you have now.
Please rate yourself on the following:
Your Communication Skills
Your Readiness to Make Decisions
Your Financial Health and Wellbeing
Your SELF-Led Future
Your Commitment Level
using this 1-10 scale and choose the number that best reflects where you are right at this moment.
1 = I feel confused or overwhelmed and haven’t addressed this at all. 4 = I think about this at times and then avoid it again. 7 = I’m making progress. 10 = I’ve got this covered and I feel good!
I remember when I said “I do” to my beloved college boyfriend two weeks after I graduated college in 1969. I was filled with hope – hope for the marriage of my dreams, hope for the children we had always wanted, and hope for a home we could share with our families, friends and pets. I was blessed for almost twenty years to see those hopes realized.
When I realized our marriage might not last, I never lost hope. I hoped we could find a way around our individual differences. Even as we separated, I hoped we could find our way back to each other and keep our family intact.
Ten years into the separation, I still hoped our divorce would be different, better, more loving than much of the previous decade had been. After we got divorced, I hoped time would heal the wounds caused by the process we had endured. Twenty years after that, I am still hoping things will get better.
The Power of Hope. Or denial. Or refusal to accept reality. Or an opportunity to show courage and confidence in the face of rejection and despair.
Maybe hope is the optimistic expectation that the change you desire is still possible so that you can maintain the fortitude to move forward with trust and faith. There is indescribable power in hope.
I see it with all of my clients. Some come to see me, hopeful that they can improve their lives, either alone or within their relationships. Others arrive with their partners, hoping to restore the love that brought them together when they said “I do.” Sometimes the hope is that they can dissolve their marriage without the warfare, bloodshed, and collateral damage to their children that many divorces can cause.
Hope is what gets them to my office. Hope is what I offer. Hope for a resolution to their relationship that was better than my own. But it’s not just hope I share. I share the wisdom of many teachers, mentors, guides and processes.
And that’s what I’d like to share with you. HOPE and WISDOM when divorce is an option.
When the love begins to fade in a relationship –for whatever reason — a sense of gloom begins to build. Some people are aware of the shift and do what they can to work through it – individual counseling, couples counseling, sometimes separating to focus on their own issues for awhile. Or they get a divorce, often too quickly and with too much acrimony and drama.
When you feel “stuck” in a relationship that is no longer meeting your needs or desires. that state of limbo can be painful. In fact, of all of my clients, the ones who are not sure if they want to stay or go seem to suffer the most.
They are locked in a no-win situation, where they can’t take a step closer to their partners – either because their hearts are walled or the filters through which they judge the other are clouded with blame. Or they can’t take a step away because of fear or guilt or worry about their future or their children.
Being at a crossroads without a clear direction gives them a sense of hopelessness which leads to inertia and despair.
Hope and wisdom — with inspired action — is so powerful.
It’s like giving a poor man a fishing pole instead of a fish.
It’s like offering a map to someone lost in the desert.
It’s like a finding a bridge off an island of pain to a better place.
HOPE. (deep breath). HOPE. That’s what I want to share with you now.
If you are – or know someone who is
Considering a separation
Contemplating a divorce
Going through a divorce
Still suffering from a divorce in the past
Let’s offer you or them some HOPE today. Hope and wisdom which can lead to inspired action.
Compassionate Communication and Compassionate Mediation® can heal and transform your relationship when hope and wisdom lead to inspired action steps in the direction of the highest good for all concerned.
Hope can move you from heartache to healing to happiness. One step at a time. I’d love to help you on your path.
When you show empathy to your partner, it benefits both of you.
Whether you decide to stay in your relationship or leave it, you have choices to make on how you are going to relate to your partner. No matter what you choose to do, you have to get to a place of compassion. You have to get to a place where you can relate to each other with respect, with kindness, with empathy.
The Miracle of Empathy helps you to compassionately listen to what’s underneath the anger that your partner might be showing you. You understand the hurt and the fear and the sadness, and you open your heart to empathize — even if you’ve done it many times before. Because as you give empathy, it enriches you no matter what your other person is going to do.
Compassionate Mediation® is helpful even if you are are the only one who learns it. I have shared this process with an individual who’s come to my office confused. I’ve shared it with couples that one wants to stay and the other one wants to go. That happens a lot of times. Then I’ve used it in mediation for divorce as well.
The Steps of Compassionate Mediation®
The first step, again, come home to yourself. Take care of yourself.
The second step: create a compassionate relationship.
Practice the Miracle of Empathy, where you start talking about what you want with “I” messages instead of talking about your judgments with “you” messages. When you begin to communicate with empathy, you will be able to practice the Five Steps to Receive What You Want and Need.
Those Five Steps to Receive are:
You have to know what you want and need. You have to know you deserve it. You have to be willing to ask for it and ready to receive it and stay grateful.
Know what you want and need.
Believe you deserve it.
Learn how to ask.
Be willing to receive and
Stay grateful.
Practicing the 5 Steps takes time. Often, we’re in a relationship and we spend our whole relationship taking care of other people. So we’ve lost sight of what we want and need. Take the time you need to get clear on your own desires and then set your intention on creating the relationship you deserve.
Fill up with SELF love.
Go back to that first step and find out what makes you YOU, what makes you happy, and do that. Fill up with self-love. Then you’ll be more loving.
You’ll take those 5 Steps and you’ll begin to think about what it is you want and sharing that with your partner instead of what you don’t want.
Then together, you can co-create a relationship that meets your needs.
