(This video was from my LIVE Question and Answer Session from the last Tools for Your Practice Now Course….)

QUESTION FROM live session for Compassionate Mediation Tools for Your Practice Now. 

And the first question is, how does Compassionate Mediation differ from traditional Divorce Mediation? 

Linda had asked whether Compassionate Mediation® create a dual program, and she said in some states they frowned upon doing mediation and therapy.

I want to speak directly to this. 

Up until now, there has been nothing like Compassionate Mediation!

If an individual or a couple wanted to get divorced, they would hire an attorney, they would hire collaborative attorneys, they would go to divorce mediation, and they would get divorced. 

If they wanted to go to marriage counseling, they'd find a therapist, or a counselor, or a clergy, and get some counseling.

And I found that after doing 30 years of working with individuals and couples, it's often not that clear cut.
Because people have “parts” that are ambivalent about what they want to do. 

Even when they're in marriage counseling, one or both members of the couple may have thought about leaving. But unless you address it, it just kind of is an exiled feeling that never gets noticed. And with that, the person that's harbored that thought can't fully be present, because they're still considering “what would it be like if I ended this relationship?”

And when people get divorced, there are still times when they're wondering if it's the right thing to do. It's not always a linear process. There's a lot of regret, or remorse, of what ifs. But by then, it's usually too late because the lawyers are involved, the process is started, everyone's been told, and it carries out the trajectory in the direction of marital dissolution.

So when you have marriage counseling and you have divorce mediation, they are two different skill sets. Compassionate Mediation merges them together. 

And what that means is, it's a process for resolving conflict and it uses the therapeutic skills of IFS, Internal Family Systems, the spiritual growth lessons I learned at the Chopra Center. It also includes information about what a separation or divorce would look like. 

Because then in the context of Compassionate Mediation, the couple can talk about it all. 

They don't have to pretend they have this part that hasn't thought of leaving, and they don't have to pretend in divorce that they don't have a part that wishes they could stay together. 

Compassionate Mediation empowers you to empower your clients to talk about everything. And they truly can even though they've thought of divorce.

Your clients will learn how to connect to their best self, let go of the limiting beliefs and judgments they took on with each other, unburden the pain from the past, and relate from their heart.

And then when you teach them the Miracle of Empathy — where they use” I messages” and talk about their exiled feelings, not their judgment. 

When they do that, they can create a whole new relationship, and they often do —  and you've facilitated it. 

And I've often said, if we could just spare our children from the shrapnel of our animosity, there'd be a lot more happy families. 

Compassionate Mediation teaches Compassionate Communication and fosters compassionate relationships with empathy. 

I give you the information that you can give your clients as to what all their different options are. I also give you the information to help you explain to them how to understand their rights and finances. 

And then you help them talk about everything and create whatever relationship is going to be in the highest good moving forward. 

So Compassionate Mediation®  is a hybrid. 

I use the term Compassionate Mediation, but perhaps I should have used conscious compassionate conflict resolution.

Certification in Compassionate Mediation®

The certification that I'm offering is actually in Compassionate Mediation Coaching. So you don't have to worry about the HIPAA laws or whether you're an attorney, or a coach, or a clergy, or mediator.

Compassionate Mediation is a skillset.

 It's a box of tools that you can use as needed, but it's also a whole process that I've outlined on the FREE Roadmap at www.LindaKroll.com/Roadmap. 

The whole process of what we talk about in each session is outlined for you. I give you that tool plus my other tools in the Compassionate Mediation Tools for Your Practice. 

And then I'd like to give you my whole process. I'd like to teach you everything that I do so that you can use it in your practice and take it wherever you want in the world. 

So I hope that answers your question. 

Compassionate Mediation is a new paradigm of conflict resolution.

When Dick Schwartz first founded Internal Family Systems over 30 years ago, I remembered seeing him in a room with a few people, not knowing that 30 years later it was going to be a worldwide phenomenon, started by Dick, many, many years ago. 

And I've always been at awe of how much work he put in, his dedication, his passion, and how he made all of this come to fruition, along with the other people at the IFS Institute who helped him along the way. 

I want to give this to you so that you can share it with your clients.

CLICK HERE for a FREE ROADMAP and VIDEO of the Compassionate Mediation® Process..

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CLICK HERE to check out the Compassionate Mediation® Certification (with CEU's for therapists and coaches).

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"I’ve experienced significant improvements in my relationship with my husband and children."


"I learned there could be a Compassionate Divorce."


“We’re building an entirely new marriage.”


“Linda guided us mindfully through the impact of divorce."


“I came to Linda seeking mediated divorce documents and came out with nothing but peace and hope."


“I am breaking free from destructive patterns.”


“Linda helped me love all ‘Parts’ of my SELF!”


“With Linda’s caring guidance, I moved forward with peace and strength.”


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