Up until now, there has been nothing like Compassionate Mediation®.
If an individual or couple wanted to get divorced, they would hire an attorney, they would hire collaborative attorneys, they would go to divorce mediation and they would get divorced.
And if they wanted to go to marriage counseling, they'd find a therapist or a counselor or clergy and get some counseling.
And I found that after doing 30 years of working with individuals and couples, it's often not that clear cut because people have parts that are ambivalent about what they want to do, even when they're in marriage counseling.
One or both has thought about leaving, but unless you address it, it is just an exiled feeling that never gets noticed.
And with that, the person that's harbored those thought can't fully be present because they're still considering, “What would be like if I ended this relationship?”
And when people get divorced, there are still times when they're wondering if it's the right thing to do.
It's not always a linear process.
There's a lot of regret or remorse or thoughts of “what ifs?”
But by then it's usually too late because the lawyers are involved. The process is started, everyone's been told about the divorce, and it carries out the trajectory in that direction.
Compassionate Mediation is a process for resolving conflict and it uses the therapeutic skills of Internal Family Systems and the spiritual growth lessonI learned at the Chopra Center.
It in also includes thorough information – information about what a separation or divorce would look like.
In the context of Compassionate Mediation, the individual or couple can talk about it all.
They don't have to pretend they don't have this part that has thought of leaving and they don't have to pretend in divorce that they don't have a part that wishes they could stay together.
When you practice marriage counseling or divorce mediation, there are two different skill sets. Compassionate mediation merges them together.
Compassionate Mediation empowers you to empower your clients to talk about everything – and they truly can, even though they've thought of divorce.
They can learn how to connect to their best Self, let go of the limiting beliefs and judgments they took on with each other, unburden the pain from the past and relate from their heart.
I've often said, if we could just spare our children from the shrapnel of our animosity, there would be a lot more happy families.
Compassionate Mediation provides a template to teach compassionate communication.
It fosters a compassionate relationship with empathy.
I give you the information that you can give your clients as to what all their different options are.
I also give you the information to help you explain to them how to understand their rights and finances.
Then you help them talk about everything and create whatever relationship is going to be in the highest good moving forward.
So it's a hybrid. I use the term Compassionate Mediation. Perhaps I should have used conscious, compassionate conflict resolution.
The certification that I'm offering is actually in Compassionate Mediation Coaching.
You don't have to worry about the HIPAA laws or whether you're an attorney or a coach or clergy or mediator.
Compassionate Mediation is a skill set. It's a box of tools that you can use as needed. But it's also a whole process that I've outlined in my FREE Roadmap and Video you can get at www.LindaKroll.com/Roadmap
The whole process of what we talk about in each session is outlined for you.
Then when you teach them the Miracle of Empathy, where they use “I” messages and talk about their exiled feelings, not their judgment –when they do that, they can create a whole new relationship.
And they often do. And you facilitated it.
And then I'd like to give you my whole process.
I'd like to teach you everything that I do so that you can use it in your practice and take it wherever you want in the world.
Compassionate Mediation is new.
When Dick Schwartz first founded Internal Family Systems over 30 years ago, I remembered seeing him in a room with a few people not knowing that 30 years later, it was going to be a worldwide phenomenon started by Dick many, many years ago.
And I've always been in awe of how much work he put in – his dedication, his passion, and how he made all of this come to fruition along with the other people of the IFS Institute who helped him along the way.
But in the meantime, I don't have 30 years to do this, to get it out there, which is why I want to give it to you. And I want to give you the whole process so you can use it in your practice now.
Please go to www.LindaKroll.com/Roadmap and get the overview and video and then we can set up a time for a quick chat to see how this can help you increase your expertise, impact and income.
We can help change the face of divorce, and conflict in general, one heart at a time.
