It’s January 1st, 2019 and I just wanted to speak from my heart, and talk about how grateful that I am that 2019 is beginning and that 2018 is behind us.
There was a lot I learned in 2018, a lot of gifts in cancer, and in addiction, and in learning how to love unconditionally, even more.
So, I welcome you to my first podcast and invite you to consider what you learned in 2018.
What are your experiences and what did you learn? What would you like to let go of, what you’d like to remember, and how can you start 2019 with as much gratitude as possible?
I know I’m starting with gratitude for everything in my life right now: my children, my grandchildren, my family, my friends, my gratitude to you if you’re watching or listening. My gratitude for my clients, for my health, for the health of those I love, and my prayers for peace on earth and peace in our hearts continues daily.
I welcome you to the first of many podcasts where I will share from my heart and invite you to do the same.
If you have any questions about relationships, about self care, about spirituality, about law, divorce, communication — whatever your questions are, send them to Linda at LindaKroll.com and I’ll answer them on these podcasts.
I’ll offer my 71 years of wisdom, which I have acquired, and education, and just have a forum for connecting with you from my heart to your heart.
I’m sitting in my living room with my lights on and my computer on, and I have become a very “techie-aware grandmother”, who knows how to do this. So I thought it would. It’s on my bucket list.
I wanted to create a podcast and share everything I can about
Love
Relationships
compassionate communication
Compassionate Mediation®
how to make divorce more kind and loving
how to heal relationships
how to relate to your children, and your parents, and your friends, and your employers, and your employees with an open heart.
And, how to learn compassionate communication, which allows you to connect to your highest and best self, let go of any limiting beliefs, unburden pain from your past and relate from your heart.
As you unburden the pain from the past and can relate from a more open heart, you’re going to have more compassionate relationships with yourself and with everyone in your life.
That’s what I wish for you in 2019 — to have a year filled with peace, love, and joy in a way that uses the lessons and the challenges of 2018 to catapult us into 2019 with all of that new awareness and new wisdom.
I for one, am very grateful that I survived my cancer. My new hairdo, compliments of chemotherapy, is one that I’m looking forward to sharing as well as everything else in my life with you.
So, thanks for tuning in. There will be more to come.
I wish you a blessed at 2019 filled with health, and happiness, and peace, and balance, and joy, and love, and abundance in your life.
I’ll talk to you again soon and I’m sending you a lot of love, a lot of light, and a lot of hugs from me to you.
Virginia Parsons, http://hangoutmarketingu.com interviewx Linda Kroll about Compassionate Mediation for Enhanced Relationships. “Would you like to experience more peace, love and joy in the world? My very special guest, Linda Kroll, is recognized as an expert in psychotherapy, mediation, and spiritual counseling. Through awareness, higher consciousness, and empathy, Linda believes we can make the world a safer place from which to heal and transform our most intimate relationships. Her primary philosophy is “Love is the answer, but it starts with loving your SELF.”
We will explore the following hot topics: 1) “Know Thyself” …and your Parts (Guided Meditation) 2) Tips to deepen Connections and have more Fun 3) What is Compassionate Mediation® Linda Kroll is a lawyer, Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor (LCPC). a Certified Mediator and a Chopra Certified Master Teacher
Her trademarked systems of Compassionate Mediation® and SELF-Led Divorce® have helped thousands of couples who were at a crossroads in their relationships. They have been able to heal and transform their relationships from their highest and best SELF.
In February, 2016, Linda’s book — Compassionate Mediation® for Relationships at a Crossroads: Add Passion to Your Marriage or Compassion to Your Divorce — became an instant Amazon International Best Seller. You can get a copy of the book HERE
Relationships can often be stressful. Happiness is often a choice, and it depends on what we choose to think about any situation.
Wouldn’t it be nice if we can choose happiness no matter what is going on around us?
I was thinking it could be as easy as ABC – the ABC’s of Happiness — acceptance, balance, and compassion.
A is for ACCEPTANCE
So take a deep breath and think about what it means to be accepting.
Sometimes that’s harder to do than we think.
The Serenity Prayer says “help me to accept the things I cannot change and the wisdom to know the difference.” There’s a lot we cannot change. There’s a lot we cannot change about the people we love. So part of our opportunity in our relationships is to ACCEPT our partners, and quit trying to change them.
Sometimes you may choose to put up boundaries, or even to leave the relationship, but you can do so with acceptance. You can practice non-judgment — just a calm witnessing presence of “this is what it is and they are who they are. I can choose to engage or not, but I don’t have to worry about how to change them.”
As Al-Anon says in Step One, we’re powerless to change anyone else.
The only the person you can change is yourself.
So take another deep breath and choose what you will accept right now – and spare yourself hours of stress!
B is for BALANCE
The B of happiness and happy relationships is balance, and that’s also a challenge at times because there’s a lot of things we can balance.
I think if we start to balance in our needs, as well as taking care of the needs of others — — we’re going feel much more open and willing to participate and share if we balanced our needs in there.
Balance your needs at the top of your list. Put your meditation, your yoga, your walk, your communing with nature first. Then you’ll have so much more to share.
Now I’m getting to my favorite bridge, it reminds me of relationships. Sometimes you have to meet in the middle,
it’s not a straight line to have a healthy relationship. You have to learn how to put your needs out there and then accommodate the needs of someone else.
Balance in a way where you both hold onto your individuality. You both hold onto the essence of who you are at your core. You find someone who can appreciate you and celebrate you, and help you incorporate more of that truthful, soulful living into your life.
C is for COMPASSION
The ABCs, acceptance, balance, and compassion. Deep breath.
Start with being compassionate with yourself.
I’m sure if you’re like most of us you have much more compassion for others than you do yourself. So take a moment and have compassion for everything that you’re feeling and have compassion for everything you’re not allowing yourself to feel. All the exiled sadness and fears or hurt or anger, just have compassion.
When you have compassion those feelings soften, those feelings can move through you, and those feelings allow you to be more present.
So have compassion for yourself first, and then you’ll have more space to be compassionate with the people around you.
If there’s something that’s challenging you right now, or something that’s bothering you, something that’s stressing you out — just see which of the ABCs will help you right now. Acceptance, Balance, and Compassion.
Choose even one thought of one of these, and you’ll immediately feel better.
You can also join me in my online video program to help you create the relationship you truly desire and deserve. You can learn more HERE.
About Linda
You can heal and transform all your relationships with Compassionate Communication and Compassionate Mediation®.
Love is always the answer – and it starts with loving your SELF. Learn how to add more peace, love and joy to your life as you practice exquisite SELF care.
Linda is the author of the bestselling “Compassionate Mediation® for Relationships at a Crossroads: Add Passion to Your Marriage or Compassion to Your Divorce “ —for a free chapter, go to http://www.lindakrollbook.com/
Linda is also author of the he Kindle book “Compassionate Divorce -Changing the Face of Divorce, One Heart at a Time.” https://amzn.to/2Nvj1v2
Founder of Compassionate Communication Academy. Linda believes, “Families need not be “broken,” but can be peacefully and respectfully “re-structured.”
Compassionate Communication Creates New Beginnings when You’re Thinking of Divorce.
The night before I was to be in court to finalize my divorce after a very long separation, I was moved to convert my sadness, hurt and anger into hope for a new beginning. If your marriage has difficulties, or you’re thinking of divorce, I want to share with you how I did that for myself.
I wrote a prayer.
When I arrived at the courtroom, I gave a copy to my formerly beloved (and soon to be ex) husband and to his attorney. I hoped to end our marriage in a way that would set the tone for a peaceful and respectful co-creation of our future restructured family.
I wanted us to always be able to Compassionately Communicate –to connect our highest and best SELF, let go of all the limiting (and judgmental) beliefs we held, unburdened pain from the past, and relate from our hearts.
I hoped we could protect our children from the shrapnel of any more animosity or conflict.
I offered it as my prayer, and for some, it can be an intention. It was my heartfelt request for a future of respectful co-parenting, genuine friendship and Compassionate Communication.
I hope others can set the same intention or recite the same prayer.
“Love is the answer – and it starts with loving your SELF.” Linda Kroll
Linda’s Settlement Prayer
I pray for a peaceful and respectful settlement meeting, in which all parties come together from their Highest Selves and their truest connection to Your guidance, wisdom and love.
I pray that the parts of ourselves that are angry, fearful, defensive, revengeful, retributive, punitive, unloving, unforgiving, sad, young, abandoned, resentful, negative, hurting and hurtful – that all these parts be quelled with the leadership of the Self, coming from a place of trust in Your presence and light.
I pray for compassion, forgiveness, gratitude and appreciation. Although our marriage has come down to a business closing of money and asset division, I ask that we remember the love that brought us together, and the wonderful children, which our union has borne. For their sakes as well as our own, we wish to put an end to this process in as respectful and loving a way as possible.
Although we each carry our sadness and pain and mutual regrets, I pray that we can look beyond this difficult period to a time when we can be friends and coexist peacefully. I pray that our once intact family can be rearranged to two intact and loving homes, where our children feel connected and comfortable. I pray that we can hold in a different light the love that once joined us forever; that on the deepest level we wish each other well as we let go and let G-d direct our lives.
For the sake of all we once had, and for all we had planned to share together, let us now finalize the terms of our marital dissolution so that we are both free to get on with our lives.
Let us complete this last painful task with a sense of trust in the love we once shared and hopefully can remember after this part is over. Let us not work from purely simple and self-serving motives, but keep in mind the general welfare of each of us, and our children. Let us request our attorneys to contribute what is needed for the mutual benefit of all concerned.
In the end, let us know that we behaved civilly, that we can look back with a clear conscience, and that as much as we could, we came from our hearts. God bless us and direct us all. Amen.
His lawyer looked it over, and jokingly asked him, “Are there any changes you want to make in this document?”
We all laughed —sometimes through our tears – which is kind of like life.
Even in the heartache, there can come healing and hope.
If you or someone you know is looking at a separation or divorce, please remember that together we can change the face of divorce, one heart at a time.
To learn how to offer this process to your clients, please get the FREE ROADMAP and Video Introduction to Compassionate Mediation®
About Linda
As a therapist, mediator, attorney, and author, I help others avoid the pain that my family suffered. My transformational processes of Compassionate Mediation® and SELF-Led Divorce® bring peaceful resolution instead of heartbreak.
If your relationship is at a crossroad, you ‘can add passion to your marriage or compassion to your divorce with Compassionate Communication and Compassionate Mediation®. Please visit www.LindaKroll.com for your free chapter of my bestselling book, and for more free gifts and resources to help you add more peace, love and joy to your life – starting now.
You can also take my Relationship Assessment and learn how to make things better!
If you’re a heart-centered professional (therapist, mediator, attorney, coach or counselor,) you can learn how to offer these processes to your clients at www.CompassionateMediationTraining.com.
Families need not be “broken,” but can be peacefully and respectfully “re-structured.”
It’s been 30 years since I first separated from my beloved ex-husband, and since that time, it has become my mission to make help individuals and couples to resolve conflict in the highest good for all concerned.
A marriage doesn’t have to end in broken hearts, families and fortunes.
And often, with the right information and counseling, you can create a new marriage with your partner now.
Two people who once promised to love each other forever can find it in their hurting hearts to learn how to restructure their families without the shrapnel that animosity leaves behind.
The holidays are especially difficult when there is conflict in your relationship.
You have to pretend everything is okay, but secretly you’re conflicted and confused. Many people hold on through the holidays only to decide to end their relationships as soon as the festivities end.
January is often called “Divorce Month,” but it doesn’t have to be.
Three years ago, I published my book, Compassionate Mediation® for Relationships at a Crossroads: How to Add Passion to Your Marriage or Compassion to Your Divorce.
As a therapist, mediator, and attorney, I have spent 30 years counseling thousands of individuals and couples who are:
Unhappy but hopeful things will improve,
Unhappy but “stuck”
Separated
Divorcing
Or Divorced
This year I finished the online course, which is six hours of videos of everything I offer to my clients in person, plus six months of live monthly calls with me.
It is my goal to reach as many people as possible with the hope that this information can help to change the face of divorce — one heart at a time.
For a limited time, I am lowering the cost of the course to make it affordable to anyone who could use this information.
So if you, or someone you know, is suffering this holiday season (or any time), please get the information and support you need to create the relationship you desire and deserve – no matter what form it takes.
I believe families need not be “broken,” but can be peacefully and respectfully “re=structured.”
So whether you want to add more passion and partnership, or think you want to part ways with as much kindness and compassion as possible, this course is for you.
Or you can get it to give to someone you care about so they can benefit from the education and empowerment they will receive.
If you have any questions, please join me on my next Live Q&A which will be coming soon.
Let me help you end this year and begin 2019 with a sense of hope and healing, so the coming year will be filled with more peace, love and joy.
