I hope that you will join me on the upcoming Compassionate Mediation Program (link).
I would also like to gift you the following:
Guided Meditation to Get to SELF
Audio on What You Need to Know if You’re Thinking of Divorce
Budget Form
Just give me your best email to send the downloads to you and they will be on their way.
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Do you wish you could improve your relationship, but you’re not sure how?
Do you sometimes wonder if you should stay or go?
Do you think you want a divorce?
Wherever you are in your relationship, this Quiz will help you get clear about what you want to do next.
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I remember when I said “I do” to my beloved college boyfriend two weeks after I graduated college in 1969. I was filled with hope – hope for the marriage of my dreams, hope for the children we had always wanted, and hope for a home we could share with our families, friends and pets. I was blessed for almost twenty years to see those hopes realized.
Ten years into the separation, I still hoped our divorce would be different, better, more loving than much of the previous decade had been. After we got divorced, I hoped time would heal the wounds caused by the process we had endured. Twenty years after that, I am still hoping things will get better.
The Power of Hope. Or denial. Or refusal to accept reality. Or an opportunity to show courage and confidence in the face of rejection and despair.
Maybe hope is the optimistic expectation that the change you desire is still possible so that you can maintain the fortitude to move forward with trust and faith. There is indescribable power in hope.
I see it with all of my clients. Some come to see me, hopeful that they can improve their lives, either alone or within their relationships. Others arrive with their partners, hoping to restore the love that brought them together when they said “I do.” Sometimes the hope is that they can dissolve their marriage without the warfare, bloodshed, and collateral damage to their children that many divorces can cause.
Hope is what gets them to my office. Hope is what I offer. Hope for a resolution to their relationship that was better than my own. But it’s not just hope I share. I share the wisdom of many teachers, mentors, guides and processes.
And that’s what I’d like to share with you. HOPE and WISDOM when divorce is an option.
When the love begins to fade in a relationship –for whatever reason — a sense of gloom begins to build. Some people are aware of the shift and do what they can to work through it – individual counseling, couples counseling, sometimes separating to focus on their own issues for awhile. Or they get a divorce, often too quickly and with too much acrimony and drama.
When you feel “stuck” in a relationship that is no longer meeting your needs or desires. that state of limbo can be painful. In fact, of all of my clients, the ones who are not sure if they want to stay or go seem to suffer the most.
They are locked in a no-win situation, where they can’t take a step closer to their partners – either because their hearts are walled or the filters through which they judge the other are clouded with blame. Or they can’t take a step away because of fear or guilt or worry about their future or their children.
Being at a crossroads without a clear direction gives them a sense of hopelessness which leads to inertia and despair.
Hope and wisdom — with inspired action — is so powerful.
It’s like giving a poor man a fishing pole instead of a fish.
It’s like offering a map to someone lost in the desert.
It’s like a finding a bridge off an island of pain to a better place.
HOPE. (deep breath). HOPE. That’s what I want to share with you now.
If you are – or know someone who is
Considering a separation
Contemplating a divorce
Going through a divorce
Still suffering from a divorce in the past
Let’s offer you or them some HOPE today. Hope and wisdom which can lead to inspired action.
You can take the Unhappy Marriage Quiz to review your relationship and then join me on my free webinar “Should I Stay or Should I Go?” — Five Vital Questions to Help You Know! to learn how to make things better starting now!
Get a copy of my book for yourself or to share with someone who needs the support. Compassionate Mediation for Relationships at a Crossroad: Add Passion to Your Marriage or Compassion to Your Divorce .
Compassionate Communication and Compassionate Mediation® can heal and transform your relationship when hope and wisdom lead to inspired action steps in the direction of the highest good for all concerned.
Hope can move you from heartache to healing to happiness. One step at a time. I’d love to help you on your path.
Compassionate Relationships in Compassionate Mediation®
Join me in my free webinar: “Should I Stay or Should I Go?” Five Vital Questions to Help You Know.
When you show empathy to your partner, it benefits both of you.
Whether you decide to stay in your relationship or leave it, you have choices to make on how you are going to relate to your partner. No matter what you choose to do, you have to get to a place of compassion. You have to get to a place where you can relate to each other with respect, with kindness, with empathy.
The Miracle of Empathy helps you to compassionately listen to what’s underneath the anger that your partner might be showing you. You understand the hurt and the fear and the sadness, and you open your heart to empathize — even if you’ve done it many times before. Because as you give empathy, it enriches you no matter what your other person is going to do.
Compassionate Mediation® is helpful even if you are are the only one who learns it. I have shared this process with an individual who’s come to my office confused. I’ve shared it with couples that one wants to stay and the other one wants to go. That happens a lot of times. Then I’ve used it in mediation for divorce as well.
Practice the Miracle of Empathy, where you start talking about what you want with “I” messages instead of talking about your judgments with “you” messages. When you begin to communicate with empathy, you will be able to practice the Five Steps to Receive What You Want and Need.
You have to know what you want and need. You have to know you deserve it. You have to be willing to ask for it and ready to receive it and stay grateful.
Practicing the 5 Steps takes time. Often, we’re in a relationship and we spend our whole relationship taking care of other people. So we’ve lost sight of what we want and need. Take the time you need to get clear on your own desires and then set your intention on creating the relationship you deserve.
Go back to that first step and find out what makes you YOU, what makes you happy, and do that. Fill up with self-love. Then you’ll be more loving.
You’ll take those 5 Steps and you’ll begin to think about what it is you want and sharing that with your partner instead of what you don’t want.
Then together, you can co-create a relationship that meets your needs.
To learn more, please join me on my Free Webinar: “Should I Stay or Should I Go?” Five Vital Questions to Help You Know.
Compassionate Mediation® starts with Compassionate Communication
If you are having conflict in your relationship, Compassionate Mediation® will help.
You will learn how to connect to your highest and best SELF and resolve your issues with empathy and respect.
Compassionate Mediation® starts with Compassionate Communication.
To learn more, please join me in the Compassionate Communication Community on Facebook. www.Compassionate Communication.GROUP.
Compassionate Communication allows you to connect to your highest and best SELF, let go of limiting beliefs and judgments, unburden pain from the past, and relate from your heart.
When we are “in SELF,” we’re calm, clear, and compassionate.
We’re usually not “in SELF.”
We’re in our Parts, and the parts that we’re in, we either EXILE some parts and push them aside and don’t tell our partner that we’re really sad and scared, and instead we try to MANAGE by being nice or pleasing or being stoic or being hardworking or pretending we’re in self. Pretending everything is okay. But we’re really feeling a lot of these hurt, sad, scared, maybe even angry feelings that we’re not sharing.
So instead we do things to numb ourselves. We stay real busy. We exercise too much. We drink. We take drugs. We go have an affair. We get depressed. We get enraged. We do a lot of different things, but these are all human reactions to a very painful, scary condition.
When we’re in self, then we are less reactive and can be more responsive.
There are four ways to get to self. The first way is to just take a breath because all that anxiousness, all those voices, “Do I want to stay? Do I want to go? What do I want to do? How do I want to be? Can I put my wall down? Is it safe? How am I going to look at him or her through the filter?”
When you bring your best SELF to your relationship, it will improve no matter what your partner does or doesn’t do.
You will also know that you are not adding negativity to the situation.
Whatever the outcome of the conflict, you will feel better about your contribution.
Try it, you’ll see. You will also inspire your partner to show up with less defensiveness and reactivity.
Together, you can create a SELF-led relationship that fosters more compassion and connection.
Compassionate Mediation® can help you if you are not sure about what you want to do about your relationship.
Please join my upcoming Free Webinar – “Should I Stay or Should I Go?” — Five Vital Questions to Help You Know.
If you’re like many of my clients, you’re feeling:
• stuck
• confused
• anxious
• guilty
• hopeful that you can change your relationship
• or scared that it may lead to a separation or divorce.
I’m Linda Kroll. I’m a therapist, mediator, attorney, Chopra-certified master teacher of meditation, yoga, perfect health. As of last year, I’m the author of Compassionate Mediation for Relationships at a Crossroad: Add Passion to Your Marriage or Compassion to Your Divorce.
My intention is that you feel more hope. Deal with where you are right now, and where you can be, even if you don’t see it yet.
If you’re on your own island of pain, feeling alone and lost and confused and scared, I want to help you find the bridge to wherever you’re supposed to go next.
It doesn’t mean you have to take any steps. It just means you get the information you need so that when you’re ready to take a step you know that you have the information that will give you the best guidance.
My intention is that you come out feeling more hopeful and see a possibility that you don’t see right now.
Please remember that it’s never too late to start something new and better together!
