A Compassionate Divorce
Heals Your Re-Structured Family
Families need not be “broken,” but can be peacefully and respectfully “re-structured.”
If your marriage in in conflict, if you are separated now or even in the middle of your divorce, you can proceed with compassion, empathy and respect.
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Linda Kroll, a therapist, mediator, attorney, and author has worked with hundreds of individuals and couples for over 25 years. She shares that Compassionate Divorce is not only possible, but a healing opportunity for your future.
Compassionate Mediation® leads to a Compassionate Divorce, and healing and transformation for the future.
You once loved your partner enough to promise to love them for a lifetime. Your story about the current relationship has caused you to choose to leave. Or your partner wants a divorce and you have to respond.
Marriages end for different reasons:
- Unmet needs and expectations
- Irreconcilable differences
- Abuse, addictions, affairs
- Growing apart
- (put your reason here….)
Whatever your issue, the same emotions appear in one or both parties: sadness, fear, anger, terror, rage, confusion, pain, longing, hopelessness, hope, regrets, guilt…. and more.
You need to acknowledge the roller coaster of feelings even as you negotiate the legal and financial details.
Compassionate Mediation® supports you as you:
- Be your best Self
- Create a compassionate relationship
- Explore all your options
- Understand your rights and finances
- Create the relationship you desire and deserve.
Linda's clients say:
“I learned there could be a Compassionate Divorce.”
“I imagine that working with me and my spouse was quite challenging as we both brought a lot with us while dealing with intense life issues. Once the difficult decisions were further along, there was space to let concepts into my mind and heart of empathy and compassion.
“Linda always seemed to maintain an ability to stay above the fray, and she taught me how to come from my Highest Self. I feel that I understood the meaning of Highest Self immediately, yet before being introduced to that concept by Linda, I don’t think that I operated from that place often enough. I am now am working toward living my best life, from my Highest Self, looking for good things for myself, my newly structured family, and for the greater good in my business and personal life.” — Paul
“Linda guided us mindfully through the impact of divorce.”
“My (former) husband and I owned a business together and worked together every day. We wanted to dissolve our marriage but not lose our company in the process. Linda helped us sort out the dysfunctional parts of the relationship from the parts of our relationship that still worked and we wanted to retain, allowing us to continue to work together, successfully, for years. She helped us separate from each other in a mutually respectable way so that I could move past my anger and disappointment in the failed relationship.
She also helped us stay focused on what was really important: our 3 year old child, making him the center of most of our decisions, asking ourselves what was best for him as we wrote our joint parenting agreement. When our son attended a group for kids of divorced parents at his school, they thought he was fantasizing when he told the counselor his parents worked together every day. Not only was Linda able to guide and advise us mindfully through the psychological and physical impact of divorce, but also the legal aspects, helping us as she wrote our divorce decree to suit our needs.”
“I came to Linda seeking mediated divorce documents and came out with nothing but peace and hope.”
“Linda’s unwavering pursuit of compassion and dogged exploration into the emotional history of both our lives was incredibly revelatory. I came to understand how little I understood myself emotionally as well as how much pain I had suppressed, hidden, or avoided. I was able then to see my wife as a person to be respected, instead of a problem to be solved, and now am party to perhaps the best divorce the world has seen. My relationship with my ex-wife now is better than it ever was when we were married. Our child has performed a full reversal of negative behaviors to become a desired friend, colleague, and leader in her social circles.”
Yes, you can believe it!
Perhaps that is hard to realize when you are suffering from unmet needs and expectations. You may have built walls around your heart to protect yourself from being hurt. You have negative filters through which you see and judge your partner (and often yourself), and you keep believing the same stories you have been telling yourself.
You have explained the reasons why you are unhappy to friends, family and maybe a therapist. You may have hired an attorney to begin the divorce process, and told them your perspective as they go to court on your behalf.
Your children may be caught in the middle of a cold war or an all out conflict, but it doesn’t have to be that way. The biggest gift you can gift your children is to minimize conflict between you and your spouse.
You can learn a new way to communicate now, and spare your children from the shrapnel of your animosity.
You can choose to separate and divorce with peaceful conversations about all the issues you need to resolve.
A new method of conflict resolution will give you the tools you need to re-structure you family in the highest good for all concerned .
With Compassionate Communication, no subject is off limits. When you relate to your partner with empathy, even at this life-changing experience, it gives you an invaluable opportunity to heal even as you individuate.
You have both done the best you know how to do. You can become more calm, clear and confident as you ask for and receive what you want and need.
Why compassion when you’re so angry or hurt?
Remember to start with compassion for yourself!
Acknowledge your feelings, have the courage to talk about your needs, find support for yourself as you embark on a transformational process.
You will get through your divorce, but HOW you navigate the process will affect the future of yourself and your family.
If you have children, you will always be in contact with your “ex.” The way you relate, and even the energy you experience when you think about your former spouse is picked up by your children.
They marinate inside the relationship you build, no matter what form it takes. Why not give them an environment of peace and respect instead of animosity and blame?
You will have to grieve your loss.
You don’t expect to get divorced. It wasn’t supposed to happen to you. It was for the other 50% of the population. You will have to feel your feelings and the denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance that comes with the death of a relationship.
But your relationship does not have to die. It can shift into something new and better than it is now. You can model for your children how conflict can be resolved, and peace can be restored, even with a new way of relating and living apart.
But don’t get stuck in the typical adversarial process. You can bring a whole new way of being to your relationship as you negotiate a better future.
When you create a Compassionate Divorce, you heal relationships from the past and moving forward.
You have the power to create an atmosphere of respect for your extended family — and even in future step-family situations.
No matter how much pain you feel right now, or how hopeless it feels, get your free chapter so that —
Together, we can change the face of divorce, one heart at a time.
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