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The Power of Surrender is the subject of my LoveNote this month. Surrender is often the most empowering choice we can make. 

Surrender is not always submission, capituation, or a sign of defeat.

I’m looking at our Ego’s need to be in control, to compete, to compare — and then surrendering to the gentle presence of our Soul – which seeks compassion, connection, and collaboration.

For most of my life, I have been a beloved family hero, helping out where I can, and being the one many come to for advice and support. I love my family, and I have loved that role. It got me attention, appreciation, affection and acceptance – the four needs of the heart.


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Self Care in Relationships.

My Will

My computer cord is at the office and I only have 9% battery. Kind of a metaphor for starting my EXQUISITE SELF CARE mode today.

If I don’t make the time to RECHARGE, I’m continually running on empty - with only fumes to take me where I want to go.

I will get my cord, go to the Botanic Gardens, enjoy nature, breathe, allow myself to BE. (Please join me on my guided meditation here.)

SELF in Mediation - IFS and SELF-leadership

SELF in Mediation

(from a Mediation Training in 1998)

My twenty-one year old daughter (who is now 40) recently called me at the end of her first year of her doctoral program in psychology to tell me she really didn’t want to be a psychologist. She wanted a profession in which there would be one right answer and not so many possibilities. Worried that she was going to switch to law school, I mentioned that even in law, you can argue two sides. And her response was, "Yes, but there are only two." And I thought to myself, she should never go into mediation.

On some existential level, I think she was trying to make sense out of this world. And the more she was learning, the more confusing it all seemed. And I thought to myself, the more confusing it seemed, the more she is learning about the world, and it’s in the acceptance of that confusion, we have the freedom to choose our version of reality. Kind of like mediation.