Explore Options

Explore Your Options with Compassionate Mediation®


You have many options. They are not black and white. It is not status quo or Armageddon. It's not stay where you are or implode your family. There's a rainbow of options that you don't understand yet, but you will.

As you start to learn how to communicate from your higher self, learn how to use the miracle of empathy, you can begin to talk about all the issues that you would have to talk about in a divorce.

Explore Your Options with Compassionate Mediation®


You have many options. They are not black and white. It is not status quo or Armageddon. It's not stay where you are or implode your family. There's a rainbow of options that you don't understand yet, but you will.

As you start to learn how to communicate from your higher self, learn how to use the miracle of empathy, you can begin to talk about all the issues that you would have to talk about in a divorce.

In a divorce or a separation, you're going to have to talk about money. You're going to have to talk about parenting. You're going to have to talk about what you're going to do with the house, etc. You're going to have to see if you need to get a job or not.

Look at all possibilities and old roles.
But when you're looking at what the possibility is, you can talk about this without needing to end it, because many times in a relationship, you're locked in roles that you had many years ago that your parents had.

You have many options.

They are not black and white. It is not status quo or Armageddon. It's not stay where you are or implode your family. There's a rainbow of options that you don't understand yet, but you will.

As you start to learn how to communicate from your higher self, learn how to use the miracle of empathy, you can begin to talk about all the issues that you would have to talk about in a divorce.

In a divorce or a separation, you're going to have to talk about money. You're going to have to talk about parenting. You're going to have to talk about what you're going to do with the house, etc. You're going to have to see if you need to get a job or not.

Look at all possibilities and old roles.


But when you're looking at what the possibility is, you can talk about this without needing to end it, because many times in a relationship, you're locked in roles that you had many years ago that your parents had.

For Example,

Sometimes the husband is the breadwinner and the wife stays at home and raises the children. He spends 15 or 20 years earning money. She feels neglected. She doesn't know it. He's ready to retire. She's already been M.I.A., missing in action because she's felt so hurt for years and wasn't able to share that. So then they show up in my office ready to get divorced.

He's hopeful that she'll love him and she's ready to leave.

Non-initiator needs to talk about a possible ending.
I tell the party that's hopeful that they have to be willing to talk about what an ending would look like because the person that's ready to leave isn't ready to keep doing marriage counseling.

Initiator needs to talk about feelings. 
I tell the person who wants to leave that they have to be willing to talk about the feelings because otherwise the person that's still hopeful will sabotage any divorce proceedings and they could fight about it for two years before they were in a room talking about what they're going to talk about with me or with your counselor or with someone else who knows this process.

Begin to talk about all your issues.
It's a way to bridge the gap and allow you to talk about where are our finances? Where are they? How much do we owe? How much do we own? What's a budget? How much are we spending? How much does it cost us to live here?

EXAMPLE


A lot of times let's go the reverse. The woman has been unhappy that the man has been working so hard, but the man might be resentful or the other woman… please, gender, please forgive me. I don't mean to pick genders.

One party is mad that they've been working the whole time and the other party has had it easy.

But instead of asking the other party to start working, the resentment builds and other things get in the way. Sometimes affairs get in the way.

Bring your highest SELF to your relationship now.

Separate and “nesting”
Sometimes you may need to talk about a separation, and there are many different ways to separate. Yes, one party could leave the house. However, there's something called "nesting" that a lot of people do, where one party leaves for a weekend and the other party stays and then they switch off.

Sometimes you can agree to separate in the same house. What that means is it doesn't necessarily mean you're going to start dating, but it means we're just not going to work so hard or carry our grudges. We're just going to go to own corner of the house for a while and co-parent and talk about money, but just take the pressure off.

You can learn more at the Live Webinar coming soon.