Linda's Blog

Childhood. Adulthood. Motherhood. Fatherhood. Singlehood. A different hood of which we may not have wanted to be a part. Singlehood has an array of opportunities - and challenges. The opportunities for growth are unparalleled. The major challenge is seeing the opportunities.

Many of us think of singlehood as the way station en route to a relationship. It’s the bridge we cross to get to where we’re meant to be. It’s a limbo time of searching - but it’s often a search for “another,’ rather than a journey inward.

Welcome to the State of Limbo - that area in the travelogue in which you seem to run around in circles, or just state a sit-down strike and don’t move at all. It may be true that your vistas are limited and your opportunities for new experiences are narrowed. You might be willing to sacrifice the ability to move forward for the security—no matter how fleeting or illusory—of holding onto the relationship, marriage, person and/or dream. It’s your trip and you can plan it any way you want.

ADD PASSION TO YOUR RELATIONSHP

Create Passion by Sharing Peace and Partnership

You can learn how to communication with compassion — from your highest and best SELF. When there is a peaceful and respectful dialogue, it’s safe to put your walls down. You remove the filters through which you judged your partner. You no longer see him/her with blame or judgment or fear, and you realize there are no triggers to threaten your security with each other.

Divorce is one of life’s major stressors, but perhaps “wondering if you should get a divorce” can sometimes be more stressful than actually making a decision and moving forward. When you finally decide whether to stay or go, you can confidently move in that one direction. When you are not sure what you want to do, life becomes a series of vastly different possibilities, each with its own set of fears and concerns.

The Bridge between is in Compassionate Mediation®.

The world needs to be a safer place for marriage and divorce. Children should be shielded from the shrapnel of their parents’ animosity. Compassionate Mediation® offers a new paradigm for couples at a crossroads.

The more experience I have, the more compassion I have for the profound sadness and fear underneath my clients’ resentments or rage. No matter how far apart a couple can become emotionally and physically, their children are caught in the middle and continue to feel the strife.

Meditation as a Spiritual Quest

When you meditate, you practice detaching from the conditioned thoughts and beliefs of your ego and begin to attune to the innate desires of your higher SELF (or Soul.)

You were born enlightened. Now all you have to do is let go of what you think you already know. And as you lighten up, your relationships will improve!

Descartes wrote, “I think, therefore I am.” However you are so much more than just your mind, and sometimes it’s what you think that causes the problems. Caroline Myss says, “The soul always knows what to do to heal itself. The challenge is to silence the mind.”

Dark night of the soul with divorce

My heart goes out to you. Anyone experiencing or ever touched by divorce has suffered a loss that was unexpected and devastating. You may be losing your marriage, but you now have the opportunity to find yourself, possibly for the first time in your life. Grieving the losses and feeling your feelings are necessary parts of the process of divorce. But also hold onto the reality that from this point on, your life may offer miracles you may never have dared to dream.

Inner peace

To live my life with peace, that is my goal.
To live in peace – within and without, that is my prayer.

Inner peace brings joy.
There is a calm that transcends any external happening.
There is no striving, just peaceful acceptance.
It is showing up in the moment, without effort or judgment.
It is being open, without fear or pain.

Peace is a healthier way to live.
It decresase physical problems, lowers blood pressure, reduces stress.

It's never too late to create a better marriage. Learn how now!

Many marriages end because one or both parties don't know they have other options. You can take the time to learn Compassionate Communication and create something new and better together — whatever the form will take.

Often there is one partner who believes that it is “too late” to save the relationship. It is never too late! You can learn how to make things better in my free video series at ShouldIStayorGo.com

Sometimes, one party feels neglected or ignored, as their partner focused on a career or the children. Hurt can manifest as anger or withdrawal, and finally becomes a wall that seems insurmountable.

However, there can be reason for hope even in the face of quiet (or vocal) desperation.

If one person in a relationship is willing to work to save it, a new union can emerge. Perhaps your “first marriage” is over. It’s not about fixing it or settling for what you have, but beginning to create a new relationship that meets both your needs. Who are you now? What is important to you both? And are you willing and able to give the other what you each want and need?”

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